Thursday, December 16, 2010

Untukmu, Bakal Isteriku..


Assalamu'alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh..
Sekadar perkongsian daripada seorang sahabat ana yg dikasihi demi keredhaanNya..

Untukmu, Bakal isteriku..

Tangan ini mula menulis apa yang telah dikarangkan oleh hati ini di dalam kalbu. Aku mula tertanya-tanya adakah aku sudah seharusnya mula mencari sebahagian diriku yang hilang. Bukanlah niat ini disertai oleh nafsu tetapi atas keinginan seorang muslim mencari sebahagian agamanya. Acap kali aku mendengar bahawa ungkapan "Kau tercipta untukku."
Aku awalnya kurang mengerti apa sebenarnya erti kalimah ini kerana diselubungi jahiliyah. Rahmat dan hidayah Allah yang diberikan kepada diriku, baru kini aku mengerti bahawa pada satu hari nanti, aku harus mengambil satu tangungjawab yang sememangnya diciptakan khas untuk diriku, iaitu dirimu. Aku mula mempersiapkan diri dari segi fizikal, spiritual dan juga intelektual untuk bertemu denganmu.
Aku mahukan pertemuan kita yang pertama aku kelihatan 'sempurna' di hadapanmu walaupun hakikatnya masih banyak lagi kelemahan diri ini. Aku cuba mempelajari erti dan hakikat tanggungjawab yang harus aku galas ketika dipertemukan dengan dirimu. Aku cuba membataskan perbicaraanku dengan gadis lain yang hanya dalam lingkaran urusan penting kerana aku risau aku menceritakan rahsia diriku kepadanya kerana seharusnya engkaulah yang harus mengetahuinya kerana dirimu adalah sebahagian dariku dan ianya adalah hak bagimu untuk mengetahui segala zahir dan batin diriku ini.

Apabila diriku memakai kopiah, aku digelar ustaz. Diriku diselubungi jubah, digelar syeikh. Lidahku mengajak manusia ke arah makruf digelar daie. Bukan itu yang aku pinta kerana aku hanya mengharapkan keredhaan Allah. Yang aku takuti, diriku mula didekati oleh wanita kerana perawakanku dan perwatakanku. Baik yang indah berhijab atau yang ketat bert-shirt, semuanya singgah disisiku. Aku risau imanku akan lemah. Diriku tidak dapat menahan dari fitnah ini.

Rasulullah S.A.W pernah bersabda, "Aku tidak meninggalkan setelahku fitnah yang lebih bahaya untuk seorang lelaki melainkan wanita."

Aku khuatir amalanku bukan sebulatnya untuk Rabbku tetapi untuk makhluknya. Aku memerlukan dirimu untuk menghindari fitnah ini. Aku khuatir kurangnya ikhlas dalam ibadahku menyebabkan diriku dicampakkan ke neraka meninggalkan kau seorang diri di syurga. Aku berasa bersalah kepada dirimu kerana khuatir cinta yang hak dirimu akan aku curahkan kepada wanita lain. Aku sukar untuk mencari dirimu kerana dirimu bagaikan permata bernilai di antara ribuan kaca menyilau. Tetapi aku pasti jika namamu yang ditulis di Luh Mahfuz untuk diriku, nescaya rasa cinta itu akan Allah tanam dalam diri kita. Tugas pertamaku bukan mencari dirimu tetapi mensolehkan diriku. Sukar untuk mencari solehah dirimu andai solehku tidak setanding dengan ke’solehah’anmu. Janji Allah pasti kupegang dalam misi mencari dirimu.
"Wanita yang baik adalah untuk lelaki yang baik."

Jiwa remaja ku ini mula meracau mencari cinta. Matang kian menjelma dan kehadiran wanita amat terasa untuk berada di sisi. Setiap kali aku merasakannya, aku mengenangkan dirimu. Di sana engkau setia menunggu diriku, tetapi di sini aku curang kepadamu andai aku bermain dengan cinta fatamorgana. Sampaikan doamu kepada diriku agar aku dapat menahan gelora kejantananku disamping aku mengajukan sendiri doa diperlindungi diri.


Bukan harta,rupa dan keturunan yang aku pandang dalam mencari dirimu. Cukuplah agama sebagai pengikat kasih antara kita. Saat di mana aku bakal melamarmu, akan ku lihat wajahmu sekilas agar mencipta keserasian diantara kita kerana itu pesan Nabi kita. Tidak perlu alis mata seakan alis mata unta, wajah bersih seakan putih telur ataupun bibir merah delima tetapi cukup cuma akidah sekuat akar, ibadah sebagai makanan dan akhlak seindah budi.

"Kahwinilah isteri kerana empat perkara; keturunan, harta, rupa dan agama. Dan jika kau memilih agama, engkau tidak akan menyesal.” Jika aku dipertemukan dengan dirimu, akan ku jaga perasaan kasih ini supaya tidak tercurah sebelum masanya. Akan ku jadikan syara’ sebagai pendinding diri kita. Akan ku jadikan akad nikah itu sebagai cop halal untuk mendapatkan dirimu. Biarlah kita mengikuti nenek moyang kita, Nabi Adam dan Siti Hawa yang bernikah sebelum disatukan agar kita dapat menikmati kenikmatan perkahwinan yang menjanjikan ketenangan jiwa, ketenteraman hati dan kedamaian batin. Doakan diriku ini agar tidak berputus asa dan sesat dalam misi mencari dirimu kerana aku memerlukan dirimu untuk melengkapkan sebahagian agamaku.

Dariku, Bakal suamimu..


Thursday, September 16, 2010

Nouman Ali Khan : Lolzzzzzzzz...Funny , But True

Assalamu alaykum..

A very funny video (A very good reminder as well) showing how important understanding the Al-Quran (learn the arabic!) is..

May Allah bless this brother.
MashaAllah.. A MUST_WATCH

Friday, September 10, 2010

Today you can, Tomorrow you Cannot by Nouman Ali Khan

Bismillahirrahmnanirrahim..

My dear brothers n sisters,
here're tips for you to deal with difficulties in practising ur deen in your life..
Towards your family, loosing ur former friends, ur primary mad'u..
You must watch this! MashaAllah..
May Allah bless our muslim brothers n sisters..


For my sisters who r teachers n mothers, n to me too..

Raising Children




Providing children with Islamic education and raising them up as good practicing Muslims are essential duties of parenthood. Rightfully fulfilling these duties will lead to the Pleasure of Allah and good for the parents and the child in this life and the Hereafter. However, ignoring these duties would lead to the destruction of the child's Hereafter and the Wrath of Allah will befall the parents for not protecting their child from the traps of Shaytan and allowing him to choose the path of destruction.

Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock, a man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock; a woman is the shepherd in the house of her husband and is responsible for her flock, the servant is the shepherd of his master's wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock." [Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim]

Allah says in the Quran:

"O you who believe! Save yourselves and your family from a fire whose Fuel are men and stones." [Noble Quran 66:6]

One of the ways of protecting your children from the Fire is to let him memorize the Words of Allah.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"If the Quran is gathered in a body (i.e. a person), Allah will not burn him with the Fire." [al-Baihaqi, Authenticated by Sheikh al-Albani]

"Teaching the children the Quran is a fundamental from the fundamentals of Islam. By it the child will grow upon the Fit rah (natural Islamic monotheism) and the lights of wisdom will rush to their hearts before the desires are able to settle in them and darken them with the cloudiness of disobedience and misguidance," said al-Hafidth as-Suyooti.

This is because the child from the early age will be protected from the temptations of the world and whispers of the Shaytan, he will live and grow up among the gathering of Dhikr (remembrance of Allah) where tranquility and the mercy of Allah of descends, and as a result Allah will preserve his Fit rah (natural inclination of Islamic Monotheism)

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"No people gather in a house of the houses of Allah (i.e. Masjid) reciting the Book of Allah and studying it among themselves, except that the tranquility descends upon them, and Allah mentions them to those who are with Him (the lofty gathering of Angels)." [Sahih Muslim]

Your child will be given a position in Paradise according to the number of verses he memorizes from the Book of Allah, it will be said to him on the Day of Judgment as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"'Read, ascend and recite with slow, rhythmic chanting just as you used to recite in the worldly life. For verily, your position (in Paradise) will be at the place of the last verse that you recite." [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi]

Every time your child goes to the Masjid to learn the Quran he will have the reward of a perfect Hajj. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Whoever goes to the Masjid in the morning having no intention except to learn something good or teach it he will have the reward like the person who performs Hajj." [At-Tabari. Authenticated by Sheikh al-Albani]

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Abu Dharr,

"O Abu Dharr! That you set out in the morning and learn one verse from the Book of Allah is better for you than if you prayed one hundred Rak'ahs (units of prayer)." [Ibn Majah]

The Quran will intercede for your child on the Day of Judgment, Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Recite the Quran for verily it will come on the Day of Judgment as an intercessor for those who recited it." [Sahih Muslim]

Your child will be given to wear garments and a crown of honor on the Day of Judgment. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"The Quran will come on the Day of Judgment and say, 'Oh Lord! Adorn him.' So the person will be made to wear the crown of honor. Then it (the Quran) will say, 'Oh Lord! Increase him.' So the person will be made to wear the garment of honor. Then it will say, 'Oh Lord! Be pleased with him.' So Allah will be pleased with him. Then it will be said, 'Recite and ascend.' And the person will receive an extra good deeds for every verse (that he recites of the Quran.)" [Sahih at-Tirmidhi]

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Whoever recites the Quran, learns it and acts upon it will be given a crown of light to wear on the Day of Judgment and its light will be like the light of the sun." [Sahih al-Hakim]

So, why not encourage our children to memorize the Quran and make them one of the best individuals of this Ummah. Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"The best of you are those who learn the Quran and teach it." [Sahih al-Bukhari]

Allah, the Exalted, has also promised abundant rewards for those parents who guide their children to memorize the Quran. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Whoever recites the Quran, learns it and acts according to it will be given a crown of light to wear on the Day of Judgment whose light will be like the sun. His parents will be clothed in two garments that did not exist in this worldly life. So they will say, 'What has caused us to be clothed (in these garments)?' It will be said, 'Your child taking hold of (i.e. memorizing) the Quran has caused this.'" [Al-Hakim graded it authentic]

When the parents leave a righteous child behind them, the child will be a source of reward and blessing for them after their death, for Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"When a man dies, all his good deeds come to an end, except for three cases; the charity of continuous blessings, beneficial knowledge which he leaves behind and a righteous child who prays for him." [Sahih Muslim]

The parents will also receive equal amount of reward that the child receives by memorizing or reciting the Quran, for the parents guide him to this good act and instill in his heart the love for Islam, and the love for the Book of Allah.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Whoever guides to something good is like the one who does it." [Sahih Muslim] and:

"Whoever invites to guidance will receive the reward like the rewards of those who follow him and that will not diminish anything from their rewards..." [Sahih Muslim]

The parents should also send those children who are intelligent and bright to learn the Quran and Islamic education. It should not be that only those children who when are unsuccessful in worldly studies are sent to Madras as for religious studies. The parents should realize the importance of Islamic education for their children and raising well-educated Muslims who would in the future work for the Cause of Islam.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"The example of guidance and knowledge with which, Allah has sent me is like abundant rain falling on the earth, some of which was fertile soil, absorbed rain water and brought forth vegetation and grass in abundance. (And) another portion of it was hard and held the rainwater and Allah benefited the people with it and they utilized it for drinking, making their animals drink from it and for irrigation of the land for cultivation. (And) a portion of it was barren which could neither hold the water nor bring forth vegetation (then that land gave no benefits). The first is the example of the person who comprehends Allah's religion and gets benefit (from the knowledge), which Allah has revealed through me (the Prophet) and learns and then teaches others. The last example is that of a person who does not care for it and does not take Allah's guidance revealed through me (He is like that barren land.)" [Sahih al-Bukhari v.1 no.79]

Those parents who give the excuse that their child is weak or does not have good memory or 'he is not gifted', should know that Allah has said in the Quran:

"And indeed we have made the Quran easy to remember." [Noble Quran 54:17]

And the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Whoever treads on a path in search of Islamic knowledge, Allah will ease the way to Paradise for him. The Angels will lower their wings, pleased with this seeker of knowledge, and everyone in the heavens and on earth will ask forgiveness for the knowledgeable person, even the fish in the deepest of waters will ask for his forgiveness." [Sahih Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah and at-Tirmidhi (2835)]

It is not mandatory for your child to memorize the complete Quran. If he is not able to memorize the complete Quran then know that only attending daily circle for memorization will suffice your child for it will accustom him to frequent the places of worship rather than visiting evil gatherings. Your child will find good companions which will protect him from deviating and adopting evil habits and practices. Allah says:

"And keep yourself patiently with those who call on their Lord, morning and afternoon, seeking His Face and let not your eyes overlook them, desiring the pomp and glitter of the life of the world; and obey not him whose hearts We have made heedless of Our Remembrance, one who follows his own lust and whose affairs (deeds) have been lost." [Noble Quran 18:28]

Khadejah Jones
Share Islam Team
ShareIslam.com

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Allah’s Shade for Women

Allah’s Shade for Women
(click the link!)

SubhanAllah!

Women and men are equally special in the eyes of Allah!
Alhamdulillah~

Thursday, July 1, 2010

15 Tips for Brothers talking about "Women in Islam"

Bismillah. Assalamu'alaykum!
Sharing this with all of you~


Fifteen Tips for Muslim Men talking about "Women in Islam"

Guidance for Muslim men on how to deal effectively with the stereotypes and misperceptions about women in Islam.

Sadly, some Muslim men make the problem of outsiders' perception of women in Islam worse without realizing it, instead of clarifying the issue. This is rarely, if ever, done intentionally. However, what’s clear is that some guidelines are necessary for brothers when talking about the issue of women in Islam. Here are some suggested tips:

1. Let the sisters speak

No matter how well-spoken, eloquent or intelligent a brother is, the bottom line is this: he is not a Muslim woman.

That means no matter how much you, as a Muslim man tell a non-Muslim woman how wonderful hijab is, it will be harder for her to accept this because you have never worn Hijab and you are not a woman.

Whenever possible, have sisters answer questions pertaining to Islam and women.

2. Be careful of mixing up the ideal with the reality

One non-Muslim writer once remarked how when talking to Muslims about Islam compared to the West, Muslims take the ideal of Islam and compare it to the reality of the West.

The fact of the matter is there are very ugly realities when it comes to the treatment of women in many parts of the world, including the Muslim world. Muslims must recognize the reality of domestic violence in the community, even though Islamic ideals would never condone such ugly behavior.

3. Don’t sacrifice speaking out against injustice in the name of protecting Islam’s "image"

"Tackle the issue and the image will take care of itself," advises Sr. Kathy Bullock, a convert to Islam based in California. Don’t fall into the tendency to ignore pressing issues for the sake of protecting Islam’s reputation.

In other words, if someone brings up the issue of honor killing in Jordan, acknowledge the reality but make it clear that this is a sin and a crime in Islam and as a Muslim you condemn it. This in itself is enough. Trying to justify or make excuses for it or covering it up is not going to score image points for Islam.

4. Don’t respond to unspoken accusations

A number of times, Muslims automatically start an apologetic tirade defending the status of women in Islam before a person has even said a word. Let the other person initiate questions, and answer calmly and confidently. You may be responding to an accusation that was never even in the person’s mind in the first place.

5. Ask WHY

Do this before launching an apologetic tirade against any accusation. For instance, a man in Spain once approached a scholar, saying he felt Islam was a man’s religion. Before rebutting him, the scholar asked him why he thought this way. The man replied that whenever he looked at mosques, he saw only men.

By knowing why, you can develop your answer accordingly, and tackle the issue head-on in an honest and direct way.

6. Agree with people as much as possible

Start off agreeing with a person. It will completely turn the tables on the discussion, as many people begin discussions on women in Islam assuming Muslims are completely against the notion of women’s rights.

7. If you don’t know something SAY SO

If a person tells you they’re from X country you’ve never heard of and Muslim women are treated in a horrible fashion what can you say about it?

I have never heard of that, and I don’t know are simple enough. Don’t start apologizing, or denying that it happens. Tell the truth.

8. Don’t be condescending

In Islam, looking down on a fellow human being is a sin, whether the person is a male or a female. Don’t think you know all there is to know about women in Islam, and don’t speak in this manner either. Allah does not love arrogance, and only Allah has full knowledge of all things.

9. Don’t interrupt

This is a problem in a number of cultures, men interrupting women and other men when they speak. Not only is this rude behavior, it takes away from your message. People are less likely to listen to you if you come across as a rude boorish individual. Don’t do this to others, especially sisters.

10. Don’t assume all Muslim sisters are the same

Just because your mom, who was born and brought up in a Muslim country, and has never had a problem with hijab does not mean that other Muslim sisters have the same experience.

Muslim sisters are as different as brothers, as are their experiences with issues like hijab.

11. Become more attuned to the "new Muslim woman"

Muslim sisters today are not the same as those of yesterday. Many Muslims sisters know more, and they prefer more interactive lectures as opposed to the passive style normally used. If you’re giving a talk, be ready to have interjections from Muslim sisters. Welcome these, don’t shun them.

12. Choose your words very carefully

If you’re doing a presentation on women’s issues in Islam or responding to a basic question, make sure to choose your words extremely carefully. Know the exact dictionary meaning, as well as the meaning in everyday usage. Words are extremely powerful, and they leave an imprint on the hearts and minds of people. You want that imprint to be positive, so be careful.

13. Actions speak louder than words

You can speak beautifully about women in Islam on behalf of the Muslim Students’ Association (MSA), but if throughout the year, sisters have been denied access to the prayer room, or the right to participate in decision-making in the MSA, then think of how silly your talk is.Make sure your personal and organizational behavior falls in line with your words.

14. Don’t stereotype all Western women

"Table dancers" or "cheerleaders" is how one Muslim sister described the way Muslims tend to stereotype all Western women. Let’s not forget: we hate it when Muslim women are stereotyped as oppressed, so we should not be doing the same to others.

And lest we forget, a growing number of Western women are becoming our Muslim sisters, and very practicing ones at that.

15. Seek women’s perspective on issues

You know mom, who loves you so much and makes your dinner? She’s a woman. Your sister in school? She’s a woman. If you’re blessed to be surrounded by practicing Muslim sisters in your home, take advantage of this by seeking their views on issues like hijab, domestic violence, community participation, and media stereotypes. There’s nothing like hearing the truth presented from those who truly live it.


SubhanAllah..
It's so true!
Becareful in choosing words..
And the best to do-ASK THE MUSLIM WOMEN of things in regard to their matters..
(Those muslim women who really practice Islam alright?..)

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Monday, June 21, 2010

Advice to sisters in islam

Beautiful and good messages from Sheikh Khalid Yasin to all muslim women..

Muslim Women



A Muslim woman look into the mirror for a different reason...
All they wanted to do at the moment they put their hijab on their head, their clothes...
Is to only PLEASE ALLAH-Their LORD n their Creator..
InshaAllah..

Sunday, June 13, 2010

ENG 2: I'm Beautiful and You Are Too..

I'll say...

"I'm Beautiful.."

"You are beautiful.."

"She's beautiful too.."

"They are all beautiful.."

"We all will always look beautiful.."

Then a person might ask, "What makes you think that way?"

or the least, "Perasan. You look normal to me.."

And what do you say?...

"Isn't BEAUTY is too subjective? Hard to identify and classify. Everyone is different.."

Yeah2.. I know..

"Beauty isn't just about the look.."

"Beautiful person is the one with beautiful heart.."

"The beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.."

"She's beautiful! She's hot..."

"Put on some colours on your lips. You ain't look hot without make-ups, not beautiful"...

That's it. Enough.

Different people with different definitions..
Different people with different opinions..

Wait. If that so..

How about those who were born to be "i'm NOT beautiful" or "You are NOT beautiful" ??

"Don't worry. Do plastic surgery.."

And then waste my money?

No. I don't want that. Even if i'm to be the richest person in the world..
I'll never do that! Insha-Allah..

"But why not?"..

Because..

You'll end up being buried like other dead people do.
Then after a while your beautiful skin, look, body will no longer be the same and will no longer look the same. YOU ARE NO LONGER BEAUTIFUL!

Beautiful? Hot? Ugly? Hidious?

It doesn't matter anymore..

So what's up with all those plastic surgery and make ups?

They are not worthy. NOT AT ALL

"So what's 'beauty' for you then?"..

Owh. Simple

Natural-pure beauty.

"How's that?.."

Be thankful for who you are, despite of how you look..
Be thankful for what you have as Allah SWT has given you what's best for you!
Be thankful and stop comparing yourself with what other people have!
Feel enough with what you have-should make you the richest person on earth..
So..

STOP FOCUSING ON THE PHYSICAL (THE LOOK)
START PERFECTING YOUR HEART (MANNERS,etc).." (Sis Khadeejah Jones)
You'll result in tranquility-trust me.

Oo Muslims!

WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE WE ARE MUSLIMS..
BEAUTIFUL THE WAY ISLAM SEES US..
BEAUTIFUL THE WAY ISLAM SHAPES US..
BEAUTIFUL IN A WAY ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER WANTED US TO BECOME..

So i'll say..

"You and i are beautiful.
NO DIFFERENCE.
Because you and i are the same;
Sharing a very common thing.
Sharing the same beauty.
Sharing ISLAM and that we are all MUSLIMS.
ISLAM IS BEAUTIFUL. So, we are all BEAUTIFUL
INsya-Allah..

(^_^)

Friday, March 5, 2010

ENG 1: Lollipops

Assalamu'alaikum..
Once wrote this n gonna share it with u all again biiznillah..

"A muslim woman, when they look into the mirror, they make sure they cover their aurah, they wear properly just to please Allah! Yeah! We are so unlike those women in the street who try very hard to attract men! Anyway, what for?..

Dear women, your beauty is exclusive.

U R NOT A DOLL-being PLAYED by innocent HANDS up to "EVIL ONES' HANDS"..

U R NOT GONNA LET PEOPLE JUDGE U as to what they see that might be wrong as u r not contented with what u seem to be!

U R U! And yeah.. God knows that n isn't that enough?? Do u still need people to tell u that u r pretty by exposing urself?!

Daaa~ U don't have to do that..


LOLLIPOPS
Here's a few lollipops for ya~

You are unlike those unwraped lollipops that will get rotten sooner or later, but u are like those lollipops that are nicely wrapped. People wanted to have lollpops n they surely not gonna buy those unwrapped ones. They surely wanted to have the 'wrapped' ones. It's just that they really have to put on some efforts to have the 'wrapped' lollpops because they are more 'expensive' than those 'unwrapped'..

U r not gonna buy the unwrapped one, r u?.. :)...

Bear this in mind..

"U R BEAUTIFUL..

YES. U N I KNOW THAT.

SO WE DON'T NEED ANYBODY TO TELL US WHAT IS 'BEAUTY'.

FOR 'BEAUTY' IS TOO SUBJECTIVE.

LEMME TELL U THAT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL. YES. EVERYONE..

SO, ISN'T THIS ENOUGH?

PLEASE.. LOVE URSELF.

BE THE WRAPPED LOLLIPOP, NOT THE UNWRAPPED ONE"

Dear sisters that i love for the sake of Allah.. I'm writing this to show my concern and love towards u n to show that i DO care about my sisters in Islam n those who seek for HIS GUIDANCE=the truth(May Allah guide them!). May we meet again in Jannah! Amin! InshaAllah..

Wassalam..