tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60230209262663129242024-03-05T14:58:35.544-08:00just4muslimah.."Sesungguhnya Allah tidak melihat (menilai) fizikal dan rupa wajahmu, tetapi menilai hatimu.." HR MuslimUmm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-46599235776982156882013-09-26T00:07:00.002-07:002013-09-26T00:20:53.606-07:00Another Good Day<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Bismillah.. Assalamu'alaykum..</div>
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I was told off by a teacher on how to do my work this
morning, as I missed few tasks due to my ignorance or negligence (and
unintended one, seriously) <o:p></o:p></div>
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*I wasn’t aware of my tasks/duties- overlooked the
description of the tasks in the given instruction previously, <i>astaghfirullah</i>, may Allah forgive me, I
admit it was my mistake and I really appreciate that she pointed it out
Alhamdulillah. May Allah reward her*<o:p></o:p></div>
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I was listening to her complaints on another teacher on how
she should be more responsible next time..<o:p></o:p></div>
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(While bearing in mind, she was late-must be for a good reason-
since I hadn’t clarified with the other teacher or told her exactly what had
been going on here- it wouldn’t be fair to judge, right? Even if she was found
to be guilty, things could still be managed and probably corrected, eyh? :)<o:p></o:p></div>
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InshaAllah.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I am even more convinced now that in correcting people, we
need to have wisdom. Having knowledge without wisdom, without a supporting
personality would not be effective- it might work but not to its utmost
potential. And most of the time, things don't usually work out, qadarullah..<o:p></o:p></div>
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And I was pondering upon all those things she said to me…<o:p></o:p></div>
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The best part of it, all those words penetrated DEEP into my
lil’ boxes in the head after they sliced the one in the chest… <o:p></o:p></div>
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<i>zaasssshh</i><o:p></o:p></div>
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*Ouch*<o:p></o:p></div>
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:D<o:p></o:p></div>
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Allah Al Haleem…<o:p></o:p></div>
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Allah Al Hakeem… <o:p></o:p></div>
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Alhamdulillah, I praised that sister for addressing the
issue with her best manner, politely. Amazing that it was with hikmah that I
didn’t find it offensive :P<o:p></o:p></div>
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Alhamdulillah..<o:p></o:p></div>
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*Ya Allah, what a shame!*<o:p></o:p></div>
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I learn that first impression does play its role to people’s
heart. Have good akhlaq, people will love us. And as I recalled, I realized at
that moment, how wonderful our Prophet Muhammad SAW was… He (SAW) had the best
manner towards every single person around him (SAW). May Allah help and guide
us to refine/beautify our akhlaq that people see the beauty of his (SAW)
teachings thus the beauty of Islam. Aamin.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I also learn that as a muslima, I should set myself as an
example in spite of all the incoming constructive criticism I received.
(Alhamdulillah- All praises due to Allah)<o:p></o:p></div>
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Hehe. Criticism? I take that as a token to self-improvement.
InshaAllah… Alhamdulillah…<o:p></o:p></div>
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*Good time to break the ego ukhty!* (T_T)<o:p></o:p></div>
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May Allah open my heart to be courageous and positive enough
to listen to my own flaws- the hideous part of me, indeed- to be able to
improve myself, within my utmost capability, inshaAllah…<o:p></o:p></div>
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*within my UTMOST capability- I’m trying to tell you how
weak I am as HIS slave. Yet not giving up to improve to excellence (not to
perfection). Wallahi, no one is perfect. Expecting that would just lead you to
your greatest frustration and distress.
Wa na’udzhubillah!*<o:p></o:p></div>
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Ya Rabb… help!<o:p></o:p></div>
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*A post to remind me to be better today than yesterday*<o:p></o:p><br />
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Abu Huraira -May Allah be pleased with him- has related that the Prophet (Sallahu alaihi wa salam) said,</div>
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<span style="color: #666699; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">“</em><span style="color: #333399; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Hasten to do good deeds; (there will be) fitnah like a portion of a dark night, wherein an individual wakes up as a believer and begins the night as a disbeliever or he begins the night as a believer and wakes up as a disbeliever. He sells his religion for a portion of the dunya (this worldly life).</span></span></div>
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More details and explanation of the above hadeeth can be found here: <a href="http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2012/05/24/hasten-to-do-good-deeds-there-will-be-fitnah-like-a-portion-of-a-dark-night-must-read/" target="_blank">Hasten to Do Good Deeds</a></div>
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-84724134736654182822013-06-25T21:11:00.000-07:002013-06-25T21:11:37.189-07:00Get Them Excited !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Assalamu'alaykum wrm wbt my dear sisters!!<br />
<br />As i was reading the Quran this morning, i was reminded of my Quran teacher during my childhood. I somehow was sooooo inspired to write this post, Allahu Akbar!<br />
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I realized that her inspiration had really inspired me, A LOT. SubhanAllah..<br />She used to make me love my Quran class sooooo muchhhh..<br />Her smile, her warm-welcoming face, softness and she was very friendly.<br />Someone that you would be excited to meet everyday!<br />
<br />Ya Allah, wherever she is right now, please have mercy and increase her in blessings in dunya and akhirah!<br />Aaamin.<br /><br />So i was thinking to myself, just as much as she had inspired me, why don't i share my experience and my humble thoughts on how to get your kids/ small siblings (best to start at a very early age) to LOVE THE QURAN!<br /><br />
*Wink Wink*<br />
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1. <u>A student or two</u>. As i don't prefer large group of students- my span focus is kinda limited. So up to you :)<br />
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2. <u>The Quran</u>. One mushaf for you and give your student each. (Give to them as a gift and tell them how valuable it is for them to keep)<br />
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3. A Quran with translation and tafseer. (In language that your prefer)<br />
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1. If your potential student (let say a kid) has not shown any interest to learn Al-Quran, make him/her (Now, let's say 'him'). Let him sees what you do- how keen you are to read and read and read the mushaf and how keen and passionate you are to have your own time (privacy i would say) with your mushaf. Let him wonder why are you acting as such.<br />
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2.<u> Make sure you have the time to give hint to him</u> on what you are doing and tell how excited you are, how amazing you are feeling and how happy you are !<br />
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3. When he has started to ask you what you are doing and why you are doing what you are doing, that's when you <u>trigger his interest</u>. Say, "You seriously want to know? Hmm.." and start telling him some stories in the Quran. Get him to sit with you for a period of time. (But make sure you are not giving him too much info, he might get bored. Give little so that he will crave for more stories from you inshaAllah :)<br />
<br />4.<u> Let him know in the end, there are other amazing stories in The Quran and if he wants to know more, tell him to see you again some other time</u>. (Make a promise on when and where exactly you can do so with him- best applied to my own siblings, used to do it when they were small, <i>bi ithnillah</i>)<br />
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5. <u>Next time he sits with you again, tell him that you have a very valuable gift for him</u>. Also tell him to make wudhu (ablution) before you hand it over to him. Tell him why you wanted him to do so- The gift is sooo valuable and precious that it needs you and him and anyone else to take wudhu before touching it and that you need him to promise you to take very good care of it, handle it nicely as it's an amanah (and tell him you would be sad if he doesn't). Only then, give him the Quran :)<br />
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6. Next , see how he wants to go about it. I would suggest that you teach him memorization with tajweed. Have only <span style="background-color: cyan;">3-5 verses</span> a day for him to memorize by heart. To make him motivated to do so, promise him that you are going to share a wonderful story relates to the verses (your task: find for tafseer/ asbabun nuzul of these verses to share with him). Again, not to share too much with him, he might get tired and bored.<br />
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7. After he has finished memorizing, let him recite to you, assist him to memorize and<br />
correct him if necessary. Praise him if he managed to do so correctly and remind him how happy Allah will be with him. Also, tell him, how confident you are on his ability to memorize the entire Quran some day (don't forget to smile and look into his eyes :)<br />
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8. Make a promise to meet again with him for more amazing stories, inshaAllah :)<br />
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If you realize, THE STUDENT that i referred to here in this article was expected to have a fundamental knowledge and understanding of tawheed- such as believe in Allah, HIS messengers, etc (The tenets of faith). Therefore, if your student does not have this, explain to him what he needs to know when these matters are brought up and that you realize he is not knowing any of them. May Allah give ease in your affairs! Aamin!<br />
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Some kids may have high curiosity. Just make sure you let them stay in that condition whenever you leave them at the end of the session you have with them. You may leave them with few questions for them to think and ponder upon in regards to what you are going to share with them in next class. So that they may become eager to see you for the Quran session you will have with them in future, inshaAllah.<br /><br />For example,<br />
<span style="color: #b45f06;"><i>"There's a surah in the Quran that talks about an ant. Amazingly, a man was given a blessing to hear them talking! Do you know who? Hm... You know what, i think i'm gonna share this with you in our next session, inshaAllah"</i></span><br /><br />That should work, inshaAllah :)<br />
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Recalling on the time when i was late to my Quran class and the class had ended by the time i reached home from school in the evening. I somehow gushed to the class with my head scarf in one hand and my Quran in the other hand. I was really hoping that she will allow me to sit with her for that evening. And alhamdulillah, she did allow me, even though i was alone. O' Allah, how inspiring she was back then, until today alhamdulillah !<br />
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<i>Barakallahu feeha! </i><br />
May Allah bless her! Aaamin..<br />
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Interesting websites on Quran-related for Kids:<br />
1. <a href="http://quranforkids.org/">Quran For Kids</a><br />
2. <a href="http://www.aimislam.com/introducing-islam-to-our-children/">Introducing Islam to Our Kids</a><br />
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*In The Making of The Next Best Generation of Al-Quran and As-Sunnah: Our Next Caliphs and Next Ummahatul Mukminun. InshaAllah*<br />
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-62618233336206484412013-06-17T02:52:00.001-07:002013-06-17T02:52:31.028-07:00Choosing The Right Spouse ᴴᴰ ┇ Must Watch ┇ Mufti Ismail Menk ┇ The Dail...<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/_aw8m5xXtN4" width="480"></iframe>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-67848957317584326482013-03-27T22:00:00.000-07:002013-03-27T22:00:12.341-07:00ALLAH'S SAYS Vs syaithan's says<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Shaitan says your eyebrows are too bushy; they need to be shaped neatly.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Shaitan says you look hot in those skinny jeans and transparent tops.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Allah warns you that hell is hotter and shaitan's plan always flops.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Shaitan offers you moments of worldly pleasures.</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Allah promises you in the Hereafter many treasures.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">And yet,</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">such is the plight of us Muslims,</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">we follow our whims</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">as if there is no Day of Accountability to come,</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">where Jannah will only be given to some. :(</span></span><br />
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-27047386317210373282013-03-27T21:52:00.000-07:002013-03-27T21:52:49.333-07:00What a woman wants<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-17570510416358505682013-02-02T02:16:00.002-08:002013-02-02T02:16:25.218-08:00In the name of MODESTY<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="userContent">You called her Mary, we called her Maryam..<br /> Check ! Al-Quran Chapter 19..<br /> <br /> An amazing woman who gained my full respect, for her dignity, intellectuality, strong personality and spirituality..<br /> <br />
The moment angel gabriel came near her, she told him to go away ! She
was not comfortable with the fact that a stranger, Gabriel who appeared
as a man came near her.<br /> <br /> Why? Her modesty shields her and protect<span class="text_exposed_show">s her dignity..<br /> <br /> But how irony, people approve nudity, reject women who choose modesty..<br /> <br /> In the name of liberty?<br /> Huh, right.<br /> <br /> We are free to choose to obey our religion.<br /> So as you, to choose your rights on so-called 'liberty'..<br /> <br /> *Mood uplifting for the most in need- ME*</span></span><br />
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-70194983926526743802013-01-23T17:55:00.002-08:002013-01-23T18:04:04.774-08:00VID: Teach Islam<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Assalamu'alaykum wrm wbt..</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Sharing this with my circle of relatives and friends. Pls kindly spread the khayr and share the ajr. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Jazakumullahu khayran.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Bismillah.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Where should Islamic education come/start off from?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Not from the khatibs, the imams, or anyone else before the family institution, of course.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">But the issue here is that what our parents used to do 10-20 years may no longer be relevant to our world today..</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So... Here, bro Nouman Ali Khan addressed few humble tips, (such an eye-opener subhanAllah) on IMPROVING, preparing ourselves for the next generation- by starting off with the QURAN- <b>LOVING THE QURAN</b>. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Yes, there are some parts of the education need not to be changed as how the teachings were revealed to the anbiya. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">But with the zombie consumerism?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">PSP/Gamebox freaks-lifestyle? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">And more challenges and irresistible temptation today's generation is facing/experiencing/struggling to overcome,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">How can we start loving the quran? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Thus to instill this in today and next generation? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Practically, how do we do that?</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I mean, seriously, think about this.</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Some of us are an elder brother/sister to other siblings.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Some are teachers by profession.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">And some maybe, sooner or later, going to get kids or to get married.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We are going to be a husband,/wife, next a father/mother..</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Or the least, to be a role model, an exemplary to others around us, if Allah wills.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I humbly invite all of you to watch this.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So pls watch~!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Like Bro NAK said, yea, syaithan will come to you, make you yarn and feel sleepy, or suddenly bother you with meetings that you have, 'important' things to do, bla bla bla- when you want to do good things, when you want to spend quality times listening and reciting the Quran with our family.. Or even when you want to WATCH THIS VIDEO!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So pls watch till the last, stay with bro NAK pls..</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><i><span style="color: #351c75;">'We have to become the Nation of Al-Quran- US AND OUR CHILDREN, and the next generation (inshaAllah)</span></i>'</span><br />
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-68777333907999091902013-01-07T20:42:00.002-08:002013-01-14T20:52:56.439-08:00Knowledge 'Access' for Hawa (Updated)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Bismillah.<br />
Assalamu'alaykum..<br />
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I know i should be focusing on my final revision for my final exam paper tomorrow..<br />
But i couldn't just focus !<br />
SubhanAllah..<br />
What we discussed this morning when we were having our breakfast really made me restless.<br />
I'm not gonna settle down until i write it down.<br />
I know i won't until i do so..<br />
InshaAllah..<br />
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I remember having a halaqah in our masjid here (in our university) and after it ended, we saw brothers gathered around our ustadz, in circle sitting and they seemed to be discussing with him.<br />
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SubhanAllah, i still remember how i felt (and still do whenever i get to think of this)..<br />
I was soooo jealous ! And still do..<br />
I felt like walking to them directly, straight away, sit and listen to what they were discussing- MORE KNOWLEDGE! MORE HIKMAH to learn from this amazing ustadz with wonderful akhlaq, wisdom that he possesses. (as to what is apparent-personally know his wife and a bit on his conduct after these few years attending his classes-Allah knows best)<br />
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But the only thing that stopped me from doing so was the fact that: I was the only WOMAN-LADY-GIRL-FEMALE-any term of similar species (!) there..<br />
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Ok.. Ahaa.. I knew it's crazy to do that. I have hayaa' too..<br />
Allahul musta'an.<br />
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I talked to the organizer, suggested to him if we could have a session with Ustadz, only for female.<br />
The sad part is that, ustadz couldn't. I can understand that he stays far, full schedule on other classes he has in other places..<br />
I thank the organizer for opening Q&A session more for sisters during the halaqah tho', alhamdulillah..<br />
But we want more...<br />
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We have issues to ask and seek advice from..<br />
We have doubts on lessons learnt to clarify..<br />
We have topics read from our books alone that need to further discuss..<br />
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This doesn't happen once.<br />
And not for this particular halaqah, only.<br />
I see this happening in many places.<br />
We women usually have limited access to the ustadz of certain and specified expertize of different disciplines and fields of knowledge. That's such a great loss.<br />
I do feel frustrated seeing this keep hindering us from our passion.<br />
And i see other sisters who are trading on the same path of mine feeling the same way.<br />
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Now i realize, where are the female scholars that we can consult, sit and learn from? Whose akhlaq, ways of thinking, knowledge-we can learn, adopt from and impersonate? At least here in our place, where are they?<br />
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We do have our own halaqah among sisters, but it's different when we can have a scholar or true student of knowledge who had spent his 5-10 years to learn islam in details and having good akhlaq and wisdom in his teaching- there's so much to learn and gain from this kind of people !<br />
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Now i can really understand how the female companions of Prophet Muhammad salallahu 'alayhi wasalam used to feel when they once requested from him salallahu 'alayhi wasalam to have a special,separate classes only for them..<br />
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We want one for us, too.....<br />
Ya Rabb, Ya Mujib..<br />
You hear us..<br />
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Khayr. Now we now what we need.<br />
Access to knowledge and qualified people to teach, for sisters..<br />
For all levels, by all possible means, for all possible fields of knowledge.<br />
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Ustadz once advised us to be more <u>proactiv</u> in seeking knowledge.<br />
Be more <u>serious</u> in this,<br />
Learn from the <u>'first-hand' knowledge</u>,<br />
Get your hands on the great books written by big scholars,<br />
Be the female scholars or at leasts students of knowledge who other sisters in the society can benefit from<br />
our knowledge, akhlaq, iman, etc..<br />
Go study whatever it takes to become one !<br />
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I get it, <span style="background-color: cyan;">BE ONE when you can't FIND ONE.</span><br />
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Wooa.. Heavy.<br />
I feel heavy.<br />
So did my friend when we were discussing this issue this morning.<br />
Allahul musta'an..<br />
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Will work on that, inshaAllah.<br />
Pls make du'a for us..<br />
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*One thing at a time, ukhty~*<br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>Ya Rabb, pls make us all among people of iman with true understanding of Islam who implement and upon their knowledge with full taqwa and ihsan while keeping the intention sincerely for Your sake, to seek the countenance of You in Jannatul Firdasil A'la. Amin</b></span><br />
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<i>Upset-and-frustrated-but-motivated-muslima,</i><br />
<i>Umm Teem.<br /></i><br />
<i>Beautiful advice given by Ustaz Ibrahim Nuh:</i><br />
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-17514409447327334382012-12-14T01:56:00.004-08:002012-12-14T02:49:41.241-08:00How we USED to feel and think<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
2 interesting poems....<br />
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<b>#1 <u>A Simple Smile, A Scream Inside</u></b></div>
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There's so much no one knows,</div>
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So much that no one sees,</div>
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my thoughts and all my needs.</div>
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Maybe it's that they don't look,</div>
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Or the fact that I don't show,</div>
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Either way, there are things inside</div>
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that no one seems to know.</div>
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I want to show the world,</div>
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I want everyone to see,</div>
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all the thoughts and ideas</div>
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that flow inside of me.</div>
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Maybe you haven't noticed,</div>
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or maybe you don't dare,</div>
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to find out who I am,</div>
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to show me that you care.</div>
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I'm screaming on the inside,</div>
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a smile is what you see,</div>
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But I'm not content with the person</div>
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I seem to be.</div>
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There's a different person on the inside,</div>
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that I can't seem to show,</div>
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but maybe if you took the time,</div>
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that person you could know..</div>
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<span style="color: red;">"Taken from Chicken Soup For The Teen Soul"</span></div>
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#2 <u><b>Stone By Stone</b></u><br />
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I have a wall you cannot see<br />
because it's deep inside of me<br />
it blocks my heart on every side<br />
and helps emotions there to hide<br />
you cant reach in<br />
i cant reach out<br />
you wonder what it's all about<br />
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the wall i built that you cant see<br />
results from insecurity<br />
each time my tender heart was hurt<br />
the scars within grew worse and worse<br />
so stone by stone<br />
i built a wall<br />
thats now so thick it will not fall<br />
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please understand that its not you<br />
continue trying to break through<br />
i want so much to show myself<br />
and love from you will really help<br />
so bit by bit<br />
chip at my wall<br />
til stone by stone it starts to fall<br />
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i know the process will be slow<br />
its never easy to let go<br />
of hurts and failures long ingrained<br />
upon one's heart from years of pain<br />
im so afraid<br />
to let you in<br />
i know i might get hurt again<br />
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i try to hard to break the wall<br />
but seem to get nowhere at all<br />
for stone upon each stone ive stacked<br />
and left between them not a crack<br />
the only way<br />
to make it fall is imperfections in the wall<br />
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i did the best i could to build<br />
a perfect wall, but there are still<br />
a few small flaws, which "is" the key<br />
to breaking through the wall to me<br />
please use each flaw<br />
to cause a crack<br />
to knock a stone off of the stack<br />
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for just as stone by stone was laid<br />
with every hurt and every pain<br />
so stone by stone the wall will break<br />
as love replaces every ache<br />
please be the one<br />
who cares enough<br />
to find the flaws, no matter what<br />
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<span style="color: red;">Stone by Stone, "Chicken Soup for the Teen Soul" by Rachel Bentley</span></div>
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ps: These are the poems that as a teenager, i used to like.<br />
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Such a typical teen girl.</div>
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But seriously, that's how most of the teens today feel. Hmmmm... :/</div>
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(If you get what i mean- from what you understood from the poem)</div>
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Again, i used to (Read: USED TO) read and like these poems.<br />
I used to- so they unnecessarily resemble my personality/identity/character for today.<br />
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Anyhow, reflecting upon these 2, can u imagine how much these young people wanted us (who are so-called so concern and care of them) to listen to them, 'reach' to their feelings and thoughts, to understand and to be genuinely sympathy and empathy towards them..<br />
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To my second thought, do we realize, how frustrating and disappointing it is to see so many of them came from a broken family institution, having their potential talents to be polished-retarded then destroyed.<br />
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And then you can see in some of them having psychological disorders accumulated in them, such feelings/thought or (should i say) inferior complexity developed within them and then expressed, waiting to be heard, understood and taken 'heed' from those who may concern or from who they seek unreplied attention from, which their family members had failed to do so in the first place ! It's so painful to see this. SubhanAllah.. Seriously it is. Allahul musta'an.. :(<br />
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I feel for them.<br />
Understood.<br />
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Now, i believe we have to do something about this.<br />
It's time for action. Let's start from small ones, at smaller scale.<br />
Not to forget making or bringing changes for the larger scale- to help all kids from the entire world- Doesn't seem feasible enough for me, not yet. Allahu a'alam)<br />
Let's start with the people near us.<br />
Let's start listening to those around us.<br />
Let's us see what can we do to help them.<br />
Let's try our best.<br />
Let's begin with those who are the closest to us.<br />
Let's do something.<br />
I know it's worth something. InshaAllah.<br />
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It's better than not trying at all.<br />
From there, we can move to greater plans targeting to a bigger scale.<br />
If you get what i mean here. InshaAllah :)<br />
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Ya Rabb, please bless us all in our age, wealth, health, family and most importantly,</div>
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Pls bless us with strong iman and taqwa..</div>
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Amin.</div>
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*Concern of the youth today*</div>
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Blissful with love and peace,</div>
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Umm Teem</div>
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Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-35662611348902629872012-06-25T21:04:00.001-07:002012-06-25T21:04:54.317-07:00Help! My child isn't talking to me!MashaAllah..<br />
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A must read article!<br />
Applicable to not just those with children, but to the siblings, inshaAllah..<br />
*And to future mothers* ;)<br />
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<a href="http://parenthots.com/features/Help-My-child-isn-t-talking-to-me.aspx">ParenThots - Features - Help! My child isn't talking to me!</a><br />
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And another interesting and handy article:<br />
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<a href="http://parenthots.com/features/Dealing-with-mother-daughter-conflict.aspx">http://parenthots.com/features/Dealing-with-mother-daughter-conflict.aspx</a> <br />
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May them benefit us all. Amin :)<br />
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Wassalamu'alaykum!Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-45236023126111924072012-05-23T19:07:00.001-07:002012-05-24T06:31:37.985-07:00Him? Not now, please<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
A post i've been keeping for soooo long!<br />
It's for you my love..<br />
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Bismillah..<br />
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Ukhty habibty,<br />
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I know you think a lot of him.<br />
I know you worry a lot of his well being.<br />
I know you care about him.<br />
I know you miss him.<br />
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Fair enough to say,<br />
ok, you 'like' him.<br />
and not too extreme to say, 'love' him?<br />
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But dear sister,<br />
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He doesn't deserve your attention.<br />
He doesn't deserve your care and concern.<br />
He doesn't deserve your thoughts.<br />
He is not worthy of all these- yet.<br />
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He is NOT your husband.<br />
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Your parents, close sisters and friends,<br />
They deserve your attention, concern, love and time..<br />
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Most importantly, you have ALLAH and HIS Rasul (s)! More to learn, know about. What else to give Them their due right- that is to LOVE Them more than anything?..<br />
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Allah and Rasulullah (s) and all these people around you have their rights that you need to fullfil,<br />
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NOT HIM-yet.<br />
Not him, not until he's halal for you!!<br />
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After all, who promises you he's the one that Allah had decreed for, to be your future husband?<br />
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What if his name wasn't written in lauh mahfuz all this while??<br />
And that you'd been spending time crying over nights- for him?<br />
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Let not what is not in your hands distracts you from focusing what's in your hands now..<br />
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Face it, he is not worthy of your attention, energy and time- yet.<br />
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I hate how he takes you away from us all, now.<br />
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Not now, please..<br />
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We keep making dua if he's the one for you, Allah will bless you both with marriage, one day. InshaAllah.<br />
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If it's not him, i believe Allah will definitely give you someone better- THE BEST!<br />
That's what you asked from HIM right?<br />
And never didn't HE answer your dua, did HE?<br />
Maybe a lil bit delay in time, but worth waiting, eyh? :)<br />
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So no worries...<br />
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Stay focus, my love.<br />
Bare with us.<br />
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InnAllaha ma'assobirin.. :)<br />
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*Stay strong*<br />
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A post to keep you and me-strong, with so much love and peace,<br />
Umm Teem</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-40271444582054753732012-05-14T23:28:00.000-07:002012-05-15T10:43:22.004-07:00Breaking The Stereotype: The 'P'<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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"Do you think woman will still love her husband after 5 years?"<br />
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I was like "what??"<br />
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The issue was pretty 'hot' last night.<br />
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We had a talk on "Muslimah: Breaking the Stereotype"<br />
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Well, i think it somehow created stereotypes to the audiences on some issue-like yhe 'P'? :)<br />
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Ok. The issue was actually on the 'P'- polygamy.<br />
The speaker said that a man started thinking about marrying another when his wife started to stop loving him, which according to him after 5 years. (If i understood correctly)<br />
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Man, i wanted so much to grab the mike last night and said this:<br />
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"I'm so sorry ustaz. Are you trying to say that man would want to marry second because the wife is no longer loving him? Is that a valid reson to let a man marrying another? I'm sorry to say this, but i actually don't agree with that, with all of my due respect, ustaz. I recognize polygamy and i support it as it is recognized in islam too, but i believe it to be taken seriously with conditions for its great wisdoms. Men must be able to be justice, financially capable, marrying another for the sake of Allah like helping a single mother or a sister to provide her security and shelter or to fullfil both parties' needs as agreed.. and PLEASE let your wife know and discuss with her, tho' the marriage is till valid without her consent. Please be 'a man', be creative to talk to her.<br />
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Ok. I recognize all these. But to marry another one just because you feel or think that your wife is no longer loving you after 5 years? That's unacceptable! How bout regaining her love, communicate with her. that's what making up a relation, not abondaning her and marrying to a second wife. What if your second wife stop loving you too? Are you gonna marry to a third? Then fourth?.."<br />
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Allahul musta'an..<br />
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i respect the speaker, and i still do. Bi ithnillah.<br />
But someone has to break this..<br />
And i kinda regret that i didn't.<br />
Astaghfirullah..<br />
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Lessons learnt: speak out your mind. Clarify. Be open to criticism.<br />
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This is just my 2 cents.<br />
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My opinions? You may choose to disagree.<br />
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But if it's a commandment from Allah?<br />
"sa mi'na wa ata'na", We hear and we obey..<br />
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The wisdoms of all these commandments?<br />
It's up to you now to discover them.<br />
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Be proactive!<br />
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Allah please bless us in last night's gathering. Amin.<br />
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With so much love and peace,<br />
Umm Teem.</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-60072030433442219302012-01-30T09:37:00.000-08:002012-02-07T06:04:14.836-08:00'SisterHood', As Defined in Our Own Way :)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Mode: Happy</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>[Me] Assalamu'alaykum my kakak! My oh my. i wish there's a bro like u so that i can marry him :D</b></span><br />
<span style="color: #073763; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>Miss u n ur sister. Hope to c u girls soon inshaAllah :)</b></span><br />
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<b><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">[Sis P] hehe, i first read n went like 'waaaaaaat!' in my head, so i comented such. haha</span></b></div>
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>[Sis Q] Wa alaikum assalam wrt wbt my super cool adik!</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>Lol! what a lovely msg! hehehe! I wish the prince who forgot his way or lost his horse saw this msg! :P </b></span></div>
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>Miss you more my dear! see you soooon habibti ♥ ♥ ♥</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">As i posted to my dear friend's FB wall (Sis Q). We used to tease each other, what a great couple we could be with a spouse of each other's personality- uhuh. we are that close as sisters that we could joke around this way. Alhamdulillah. So don't get us wrong! We are normal human beings with normal fitrah Allah has created. We don't fall in love with girls.. :)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">And she replied (So did her lovely younger sister- Sis P). Haha.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">*Guess i really miss all of my friends, or dearer to call them my 'sisters', who i love for Allah's sake..*</span></div>
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<span style="color: #990000; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;"><b>"There are some people who your heart knows so well that you count their company as one of your greatest blessings of this life.."</b></span></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">As posted by another sister.. My, oh my.. You read my mind ;) </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I always have fun with you all whenever we get together. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">How our gatherings always bring serene, happiness and tranquil to my heart. Deeply immerse in warm, soothing sense of love- deep in the heart, the ONLY place which holds one's eman.. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">*Did i describe it correctly?*</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">How we spent our good time sharing stories, lessons learned throughout the day...</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">And the best part of it, how we came to relate all these with Islam. Awesome! MashaAllah..</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">How we remind each other of taqwa and patience in times of hardship and remind each other to say 'thank you Allah!' in times of ease.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">How you girls rush to be the first to conceal each others' faults and giving your hands to correct me while being the best advisor/counsellor to one another when i'm truly in need. Surprised to know you girls really get to know each others' updates so quick! Good WCCC, i'd to say. Wireless-care-and-concern connection ;)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">MashaAllah.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I really thank Allah for all these great blessings:</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">righteous (and fun!) companions (and Allah knows best). </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">sweetness of faith and the 'eman-rush'.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">All the good times we had in remembering, talking about and calling for Allah (and will always continue experiencing them, inshaAllah). Recalling on those moments we were in troubles (and we could still laugh? LOL) Cool. Guess this 'emergency moments' is one of our best teachers (!) to teach us beautiful patience, total reliance and hope on Allah. Another best part of it, we faced all these amazing facets of life together, biithnillah.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">The chance to improve ourselves to be better muslima.. </span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This is what i called "Sisterhood", just the way we define it. ;)</span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Life is awesome with this awesome deen of its awesome people, who choose to believe its awesome gift of life offered. </span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 13px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Alhamdulillah.</span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 13px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Thank you Allah.</span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">A post to appreciate</span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Umm Teem</span></span></div>
<br /></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-48007924785429343622012-01-30T00:49:00.000-08:002012-01-30T00:49:46.928-08:00A Joyful Reminder (COPIED)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh to all my dear sisters!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">These are things I ponder on as I go about my day.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There are NO BATHROOMS TO CLEAN in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There are NO DISHES TO WASH in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There is no LAUNDRY or IRONING to do in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There are NO "What on earth shall I make for dinner?" moments in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There are NO BAD HAIR DAYS in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">There is NO NEED FOR MAKEUP in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">We will ALWAYS SMELL WONDERFUL in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">We will NEVER HAVE TO PEE, POOP, or PUKE in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">We will NEVER HAVE A SINGLE ISSUE ABOUT OUR BODIES OR APPEARANCE in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">We will have the MOST DELICIOUS FOOD and NEVER HAVE TO PREPARE IT in Jennah</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">and....</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">We will NEVER HAVE A BAD THOUGHT, FEELING, EMOTION, OR EXPERIENCE in Jennah.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: purple;">(Me: Yippee!)</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">Those thoughts make me go about my daily chores GLADLY, and even make me drag myself up to go the extra mile to do special things for my family. It seems such a small and simple price to pay for such an UNBELIEVABLE reward.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">I love you, sisters. Keep on trucking, bi ithn Allah! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">Source click here: <a href="http://maitotheextreme.blogspot.com/2010/08/joyful-reminder.html">A Joyful Reminder!</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: purple;">So hope to see you all again in Jannah! inshaAllah! (;</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: purple;">Till we meet again, </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: purple;">Umm Teem.</span></span><br />
</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-6154832555059722042012-01-23T17:58:00.000-08:002012-01-23T17:58:12.711-08:00VIDEOS on IKHTILAT Issues<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Assalamu'alaykum..<br />
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Here's few videos on ikhtilat issues discussed based on the life of the first generation of Islam- the best generation ever lived on the surface of our planet! Called e.a.r.t.h :)<br />
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A MUST WATCH SERIES:<br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byOxqD-GD0g&feature=related">Introduction</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPBDEDqwfYk&feature=related">The Shyness (haya') of Muslim Women from The Early Generation</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0yQojy7GKc&feature=related">The Story of a Muazzin Who looked at a Girl</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nEIDuACo6ag&feature=related">A Woman Giving Da'wah to Men and Lessons learnt from 'Aicha (r.anha))</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocKveuQj-b0">O Believer- Lower Your Gaze</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBOPtR14iT8&feature=related">How a Pious Woman Should Commmunicate with (Stranger) Men</a><br />
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And more! Check on the Muslimz87 Channel.. You will find the whole series there. InshaAllah :)<br />
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*Vids shared as reminders, put for myself before others*<br />
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Wallahua'alam<br />
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With so much love,<br />
Your sister, Your twin of faith</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-60886173425690710752012-01-14T09:46:00.000-08:002012-01-14T09:51:56.244-08:00This is Love<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Bismillah..<br />
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How often we try to define what is LOVE and yet no justification can ever made to re-ensure what LOVE really means to us..<br />
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Look into your heart now my love, who IS there in your heart?<br />
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THIS IS LOVE..<br />
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"..there are at least 2 types of love. There will be some people you love because of what you get from them: what they give you, the way they make you feel. This is perhaps the majority of love—which is also what makes much of love so unstable. A person’s capacity to give is inconstant and changing. Your response to what you are given is also inconstant and changing. So if you’re chasing a feeling, you’ll always be chasing. No feeling is ever constant. If love is dependent on this, it too becomes inconstant and changing. And just like <span style="color: #a64d79;"><b>everything in this world, the more you chase it, the more it will run away from you.</b></span><br />
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But, once in a while, people enter your life that you love—not for what they give you—but for what they are. <b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">The beauty you see in them is a reflection of the Creator, so you love them. Now suddenly it isn’t about what you’re getting, but rather what you can give. This is unselfish love</span><span style="color: #783f04;">.</span></b> This second type of love is the most rare. <span style="color: purple;"><b>And if it is based in, and not competing with, the love of God, it will also bring about the most joy</b></span>. To love in any other way is to need, to be dependent, to have expectations—all the ingredients for misery and disappointment."<br />
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Once you begin to see everything beautiful as only a reflection of God’s beauty, you will learn to love in the right way: for His sake. Everything and everyone you love with be for, through and because of Him. The foundation of such love is God. So what you hold onto will no longer be just an unstable feeling, a fleeting emotion. And what you chase will no longer be just a temporary high. <span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>What you hold, what you chase, what you love, will be God: the *only* thing stable and constant"</b></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.yasminmogahed.com/2012/01/03/this-is-love/">http://www.yasminmogahed.com/2012/01/03/this-is-love/</a>
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A post specially made for the-confused me.<br />
May Allah make HIM the most beloved to us. Aamin..<br />
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And Allah knows best.<br />
Wassalam..<br />
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*Let your love be WITH HIM, BECAUSE OF HIM and FOR HIM*</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-33601701143862604752012-01-04T18:37:00.000-08:002012-01-04T18:37:32.939-08:00My Dear Sisters: Please Don't Soften Your Voice<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">“..then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Tafseer:</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><i>Allaah commanded them to make their speech serious and straightforward, and their posture and gestures should not convey and wrong ideas, as the Arab women used to do when speaking to men, by making the voice soft and gentle, like the speech of immoral women and prostitutes; He forbade them to do that.</i></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">It says in Mughni al-Muhtaaj (4/210), a book of Shaafa’i fiqh:</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">It says in Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/15), a book of Hanbali fiqh:</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/202):</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><i>The woman’s voice is not haraam in and of itself, and it is not haraam to listen to it unless there is some softness and gentleness in speech. It is haraam for a woman to speak in such a manner to anyone other than her husband, and it is haraam for men other than her husband to listen to it</i></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">I won't advice you to shout/raise your voice (to its highest pitch) to men when talking/dealing with them nor am i telling you to CUT OFF your communication completely with them when THERE IS A GREAT NEED for you to deal with them (When i say NEED, it really means NEED a.k.a you don't find ANY OTHER SISTERS to help you) But please don't soften your (readily womanly-soft) voice. Sisters, you know what i'm talking about- when a woman starts giggling here and there with her widest smile on face that her face is full with 'nur' + her cute lil' voice talking innocently to men. God, cair hati lelaki.. (Wa'iyadzhubillah!)</span></span></div>
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</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-29946134227168895082011-12-15T23:33:00.000-08:002011-12-15T23:33:48.282-08:00[HIGHLIGHT!] Bea-YOU-tiful<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;">"Ugly-ducklings" (a.k.a REAL-NORMAL women) vs "Swans" (Airbrushed women)</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;" /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;">How you define bea-YOU-tiful? Hmm.. (".)</span><br style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px;" /><a href="http://dearlittleauntie.blogspot.com/2011/12/bea-you-tiful.html" rel="nofollow nofollow" style="background-color: white; color: #3b5998; cursor: pointer; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; line-height: 16px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">http://<wbr></wbr><span class="word_break" style="display: inline-block;"></span>dearlittleauntie.blogspot.com/<wbr></wbr><span class="word_break" style="display: inline-block;"></span>2011/12/bea-you-tiful.html</a><br />
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<br /></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-24983879130374886042011-11-27T21:05:00.000-08:002011-11-27T21:05:03.761-08:00But She's Different<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<b><u><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">But She’s Different<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Seeing her
being likeable by all people in her circle, hearing good things (almost on
everything!) about her from every people who knows her, with her personality
who always seems to be happy and making people around her happy with her
presence- makes you wonder, “Who is this girl?”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Glaring at her once, you might say, “She seems normal, just
like other ordinary Muslim women.” She prays five times a day, just like
others. Ok, her hijab- she wears proper hijab; loose and modest clothing, she
covers herself well, just like many others. Her friends- She seems to be making
friends with everyone, not a big deal! But after spending more time with her,
you came to learn more about her. You came to learn one beautiful thing about
her which distinguishes her from other ordinary Muslim girls- HER AKHLAQ. It’s
her beautiful manners that make her different. It’s her beautiful heart,
beautiful soul- attract you most. You have met many Muslim women but she’s
different...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">She’s always happy. And she makes you feel happy too. You
wonder why. Why you feel different in her company? Why do you feel so peaceful
and tranquil being in her presence? Now you understand why. She may seem to be
ordinary on the outside, but from the inside she is extraordinary. She’s a girl
who tastes the joy of faith. True </span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;">indeed, “<span class="apple-style-span"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do
hearts find rest</span>...” (Ar-Ra’d:28)</span></span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">She observes her duties as a believing woman to her Lord
well. So does her towards HIS creations. She’s kind, nice, friendly and
generous to all her sisters. She observes her speech- she tries best not to lie
even when she’s joking nor she backbites. She speaks nothing except what’s good
and beneficial. She observes her actions- not to be hasty nor does she want to
act foolishly. She thinks wisely before acts. Then you realize, every single
moment you spend with her increase you in knowledge, good deeds and most
importantly- your faith. Above all these, you learn that the only thing which
drives her to be as such is only one simple concern: “Is Allah pleased with me?
Is Allah happy with me?”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Now you
wonder why you can’t be like her.<br />
Ukhty, you have the answer.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Yes you can. All you have to do is just start being one. Set
the right intention-to please Allah alone. Then strive to do things (in your
utmost capability) which please Allah most. Know this: what pleases Allah will
please others whom HE is pleased with as they are pleasing HIM too...<br />
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So start today. Don’t delay...<br />
May Allah be your best Supporter and best Companion, assisting you to be
different and better than yesterday, inshaAllah? Yes. InshaAllah... InshaAllah...</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Till we meet again. Wassalamu'alaykum...</span></div>
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</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-69781256507637947542011-09-26T21:38:00.000-07:002011-09-26T21:38:49.062-07:00It's Tough Being a Girl - Khalid Latif<div>Bismillah..</div><div>A video that brought me to tears. </div><div><br /></div><div>I couldn't believe there're such issues still in existence??</div><div>SubhanAllah. </div><div><br /></div><div>May Allah grant us hidayah to understand what's Haq and what's Batil and tawfiq to practice upon our knowledge with perseverence and patience. Amin.</div><div><br /></div><div>Muslim women need to empower their knowledge on deen..<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Few disappointing stories he shared on how men should stop 'oppressing' their women.</div><div><br /></div><div>Good advice and solutions he gave to these men and the society as a whole to correct this problem of (some) muslim men who don't seem to understand what Islam really wants for the muslim women.</div><div><br /></div><div>You can choose to be the evidence for those negatively stereotyping made upon islam oppressing women or prove that Islam had nothing to do with what-so-ever confusion you have made upon your practice of your false understanding of Islam.</div><div><br /></div><div>How? Learn your deen and practice what you learned. Act upon the profound knowledge-based on the teachings of the Quran and as-Sunnah..</div><div><br /></div><div>Choose one. Take latter, not the former.</div><div><br /></div><div>WATCH.</div><div><br /></div><iframe width="480" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/sYBkejsYeSk?fs=1" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe><div><br /></div><div>Wassalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh..</div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-19976682441742405522011-08-19T03:52:00.000-07:002011-08-19T03:52:36.449-07:00"Story of the parents of a scholar" - MUST LISTEN<div>
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<br /></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-11121036802918604012011-05-29T04:52:00.001-07:002011-06-13T19:43:56.635-07:00Taaruf with Our New BFFLH!<div style="text-align: left;">Bismillah..</div>Assalamu'alaykum!<br /><div><div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>I've shared a post <a href="http://moslemische.blogspot.com/2011/05/al-quran-boring-yes.html">here</a> last time on few ideas how to be close to Al-Quran.</div><div><br /></div><img src="http://th448.photobucket.com/albums/qq203/Gregiepoo/th_Best-Friends_1356340181_sideby-side.png" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 160px; height: 100px;" border="0" alt="" /><div><br /></div><div>Have just created a Hifdh Chart which seems to be more suitable to sisters than to brothers so i'm sharing it with you in this blog.</div><div><br /></div><div>Click <a href="http://www.scribd.com/doc/56576993/MyBFFLH">here</a> for the BFFLH Chart. </div><div>Best viewed with Microsoft Words-the pdf format changed lots of my format :(</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>Sorry that it may not be pretty enough for you. This is the best i could do. Made it for myself but simply sharing with you as all i want is the 'ajr(reward) from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, if it benefits you in any way! (hope so it will... InshaAllah...)</div><div><br /></div><div><img src="http://ts1.mm.bing.net/images/thumbnail.aspx?q=820122235800&id=596e6ab26a0ca9a34c761f8f4cbc2428" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 160px; height: 90px;" border="0" alt="" /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Always remember me in your du'a..</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>Wassalam~</div><div><br /></div></div></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-40718658520003360872011-05-17T07:48:00.000-07:002011-05-17T07:55:24.966-07:00Bible in ARABIC?<div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >Bismillah..</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >ASsalamu'alaykum..</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >Miracles do happen as nothing could stop Allah in making them happen..</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >Read a story from FB, it made me questioned my sincerety in this path of learning Islam, improving myself to a better muslima today than days before-what have i done so far?</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >Hm.. Good question to ponder upon.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" >Allahu yahdina</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >...................................................................................</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><img src="http://ts2.mm.bing.net/images/thumbnail.aspx?q=645033624957&id=68e97116048e98ead93f160af7708256" style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 160px; height: 120px;" border="0" alt="" /><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 14px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" >The following incident has been narrated by Colonel Amir Uddin who originally heard it from his wife. Colonel Amir Uddin is a well known caller to Islam through whose effort over 6,000 people have accepted Islam all over the world. He is 86 years old and have been to over 56 countries to call people towards Allah.<br /><br />During one such journ<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline; ">eys to invite people to Islam, his wife met a woman who was a new Muslim. While travelling, they came to know how she became a Muslim. The woman said that she was originally a Christian but her husband was a Muslim. Her husband used to tell her about the oneness of God everyday. One day while she was in the Church, she asked the Priest whether the Muslims' cocept of oneness of God was correct or the Christians' concept of Trinity was correct. The Priest told her that the Muslims are correct and he also advised her to keep this matter secret. She became very confused after hearing this. At night when she went home, she prayed to God to show her which path was the truth. She started reading the Bible thoroughly to search for answers. One night after she prayed to God to show her the truth, she opened the Bible and to her amazement, the entire Bible appeared to her as Arabic text! She mentioned this to an Imam who told her that this was a sign from Allah to accept the Quran as her guidance instead of the Bible. She became Muslim there and then.<br /><br />Dear readers, such incidents are nothing new. These incidents happen on a daily basis to those who are searching for the truth. We did not come to this world with our own will. We will not leave this world with our own will. Then why live this life according to our own will? A Muslim is that person who submits to the will of Allah. Let us all submit to Allah, Who is the Lord of</span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" >everything in and out of this universe. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" >"And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; font-size: medium; "> Hereafter he will be one of the losers." (Al Quran, 3:85)</span></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-82008034269053069522011-05-05T18:59:00.000-07:002011-05-06T23:48:44.053-07:00When I Told You Not To..<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjppcMXC_Jw3npk15D269JPfM2aiG0hCklaGsjrZ5z7tiRrRt8KVHQSKMGRoCSVyxwaJAy1F02r9lN2Jv_g_DBddHd9IFf7zXRtsC4APXJnzZwh6aLK7weo5FtiD1FKIEvb4D06SRxbNlc/s1600/my_right__my_choice__my_life___by_nayzak-d3cswlh.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjppcMXC_Jw3npk15D269JPfM2aiG0hCklaGsjrZ5z7tiRrRt8KVHQSKMGRoCSVyxwaJAy1F02r9lN2Jv_g_DBddHd9IFf7zXRtsC4APXJnzZwh6aLK7weo5FtiD1FKIEvb4D06SRxbNlc/s320/my_right__my_choice__my_life___by_nayzak-d3cswlh.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603860469168791634" /></a><div style="text-align: center;">source: click <a href="http://nayzak.deviantart.com/gallery/#/d3cswlh">here</a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">When i told you not to take off your hijab,</div><div style="text-align: center;">I wasn't trying to prove</div><div style="text-align: center;">that i'm way better than you.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">When i told you not to take off your hijab,</div><div style="text-align: center;">I understood how you felt,it has never been easy,</div><div style="text-align: center;">to hold on to your believe,</div><div style="text-align: center;">just as how you wanted to.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">When i told you not to take off your hijab,</div><div style="text-align: center;">i wasn't ignoring you,</div><div style="text-align: center;">and all the trials HE has put you thru'..</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><div><div style="text-align: center;">How could you take off you hijab,</div><div style="text-align: center;">it's HIS order to obey and you need to,</div><div><div style="text-align: center;">when all that He wanted,</div><div style="text-align: center;">was just the best for you?</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">You're beatiful, i know..</div><div style="text-align: center;">And do you really need people to tell you so?</div><div style="text-align: center;">You think HE's cruel and injustice, to give you this precious gift</div><div style="text-align: center;">then not letting you to show?</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">When i told you not to take off your hijab,</div><div><div style="text-align: center;">i was just reminding you of HIM,</div><div style="text-align: center;">of our loving LORD,Who creates you beautifully,</div><div style="text-align: center;">and Who just want to preserve your beauty.</div></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">You know it's hijab to secure your beauty,I know you feel guilty</div></div><div style="text-align: center;">so why would you want to take it off, honey?</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">You'll never win this game,</div><div style="text-align: center;">which you called "please-people' you're playing..</div></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">It's Allah ALONE you're pleasing..</div><div style="text-align: center;">So care not what they say,</div><div style="text-align: center;">no worries, let them walk away.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">When i told you not to take off your hijab,</div><div style="text-align: center;">i was just being concern,</div><div style="text-align: center;">wanting the best for you,</div><div style="text-align: center;">because i do care and i do love you..</div></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4K3db8B4tqVmtRmRgGQMaj_nKuJ-VeyTvDyt9WijjzgZEwy52aL2pNNB_KFmzoL0TVOCeuSAlfeoCiuGFotkrrs4pwxNkb-p3DJlB_TZHwJ6SpVhOzE_oz2yKhh0iiLyXmXLQgJYhKLU/s320/smile_is_charity_by_nayzak-d384s4b.jpg" style="text-align: center;display: block; margin-top: 0px; margin-right: auto; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: auto; cursor: pointer; width: 214px; height: 320px; " border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603859901571322338" /></div></div></div><div><div style="text-align: center;">Source: click <a href="http://nayzak.deviantart.com/gallery/?offset=24#/d384s4b">here</a></div></div></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023020926266312924.post-81196853178330236132011-05-03T04:58:00.000-07:002011-05-05T06:20:30.059-07:00A Step Towards Tolerance Documentary<div style="text-align: left;">Bismillah..</div><div style="text-align: left;">Assalamu'alaykum!</div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span">I found this video while reading a website. It's very interesting! MashaAllah..</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 14px; "><span class="Apple-style-span">MUST WATCH! Beautiful documentary. A non-muslim woman experienced herself how it felt like</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial; line-height: 14px; font-size: medium; "> wearing head-cover (hijab) in west.</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; "><span class="Apple-style-span">There were parents who even looked 'ready to FIGHT' with her when she waived at their kids while SMILING-That's all she did, no offense :(</span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><iframe width="425" height="344" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/kbeSdmi7Pmg?fs=1" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></div><div><br /></div><div><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Verdana; line-height: 18px; -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; font-size: small; "><h1 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal bold 18pt/normal 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; letter-spacing: -1px; color: rgb(65, 77, 76); ">A Social Experiment</h1><small>by ~<a class="u" href="http://asmilingmalice.deviantart.com/" style="text-decoration: underline; color: rgb(59, 90, 74); zoom: 1; ">asmilingmalice</a></small><br /><br /><i>I wrote this on January 22, 2011. At first I wanted to keep this story between me and a few close friends, but in light of what has just recently happened at the Islamic Center of America, I feel that I have to share this story. This is no longer an issue on religion. This is outright discrimination and intolerance. If my story can inspire others, or at least affect someone on a personal level, then I've done all that I can do. </i><br /><br /><br /><b>A Social Experiment</b><br /><br />Yesterday, I went to the Islamic Center of America. I felt incredibly out of place, being a non-Muslim who wasn't wearing a hijab, and I was very nervous when stepping into the office. Out of respect, I did the best I could to hide my hair by pulling up my coat's hood. I went to the lady at the desk, greeted her with <i>"assalamu alaikum,"</i> and she was very happy to answer my questions about the mosque and where to buy a hijab, among other things. She told me that I could observe the prayers, gave me an e-mail to a man who could give me a tour of the center, and told me how to properly wear the hijab. It was a surprisingly warm welcome and I felt pretty at ease.<br /><br />After observing the service, I noticed a man was selling something in one of the hallways. I walked over there and saw a collection of jewelry and hijabs. I decided that if I were to come back, I should have more than just my coat's big hood. So I bought a pretty green hijab, then stepped into the lady's room to try it on. It's there I met Sona. She was 27-years-old and had converted to Islam a year ago. She helped me with the hijab, we exchanged numbers, and she told me that she would answer any questions I had about the religion, the culture, among other things.<br /><br />After we parted ways, an idea occurred to me when I was driving home from the mosque. Back in high school, I wanted to do a social experiment for my Sociology class. My sister gave me the idea to wear a hijab out in public to see how people treated me. Back then, I didn't know where to find a hijab. Now that I had one, I thought I would give that experiment another shot. So I put on my new hijab and set out to three public places: a bookstore, the mall, and a restaurant.<br /><br />The bookstore wasn't entirely unpleasant. There weren't too many people there to begin with, and because the ones there were absorbed in books, it explained why they didn't pay all that much attention to me. One of the ladies who worked there asked me if I needed any help and showed me where the bookstore kept the Qur'an. Overall it was pretty nice.<br /><br />The mall and the restaurant were quite different.<br /><br /><b>I wrote this in my status on Facebook: Muslims put up with some of the worst customer service. I am not exaggerating when I say this.</b><br /><br />When I stepped into that mall, I realized just how different this particular outing was going to be from others I've had in the past. The first store I walked into was Best Buy, but I visited every store in the mall at least once. No sooner did I step into Best Buy, I noticed how different things were. First of all, the person at the door didn't greet me like he did to other customers entering the store. I didn't think nothing of it at first, and instead I went over to look at the CDs and DVDs in the store. Usually when a customer is browsing the store, one of the employees will approach them and ask if they need any help finding something. This didn't happen once, not even when I made direct eye contact with an employee whom I went to school with. She didn't recognize me. I can't blame her for it, since my long hair was covered up, but I couldn't help but feel that all she saw was my hijab and not me, let alone a customer.<br /><br />The salespeople at the mall were pretty much the same. There were only a select few who actually said more than one word to me. The employees would not welcome me into their stores. They wouldn't ask if I needed help. They wouldn't ask if I wanted to try on an outfit, even when I was holding it in my hands. They never said "We hope to see you again!" or "Have a nice day," when I left the store. Judging by this consistent reaction from salesperson to salesperson, I couldn't help but feel that they were glad to be rid of me and most definitely didn't hope to see me again. To make matters uncomfortably worse, in every store I went into, I noticed that the same security guard was there. From Spencer's to Borders, this security guard wasn't making it a secret that he was following me everywhere I went.<br /><br /><b>I want it noted that when I stepped into the mall, I was not wearing a burqa (Muslim clothing that covers all of the body and the face), a chador (Iranian clothing that covers the entire body) or a niqab (a veil that covers the hair and face which reveals only the eyes).</b> In post-September 11th America, the clothing listed would understandably be considered suspicious in case of a burglary or a bomb threat. The clothing makes it difficult, if not impossible, to make a clear identification in case of those threats. Had I been wearing those, I would understand the neglectful salespeople and the security guard trailing me, but all I wore was a hijab. All I was covering was my hair.<br /><br />I also want it noted that when I entered the mall, I was all smiles: I looked people in the eye and smiled at them. I waved to children. I was just as happy and as approachable as I would have been without the hijab. If I were to smile at someone's child without covering my hair, parents wouldn't get defensive over it and give me dirty looks. They would have smiled back at me. If I wasn't wearing my hijab and smiled at a person who was walking my way, they wouldn't turn their head away from me or refuse to make eye-contact. They would have smiled back. If I had walked into a JC Penny's, a Macy's, a Hot Topic, a Spencer's, or a Forever 21 without my hijab on, people wouldn't have ignored me and avoided me. They would have greeted me and jumped to assist me. If I wasn't wearing my hijab and walked around the mall, I wouldn't have a security guard following me into every store, because they probably would be hounding some other Muslim woman.<br /><br /><b>All I did was cover my hair. I didn't insult these people. I never did anything to these people. I didn't get into an argument with them, or threaten them, or cause any sort of trouble that would warrant this cold behavior, let alone the attention of a security guard. All I did was cover my hair.</b><br /><br />However, I feel that the greatest display of outright discrimination took place at the restaurant. This was my former workplace and many of my ex-coworkers were still working there. None of them recognized me, and as soon as I walked into the restaurant, the hostess (a former co-worker who was looking me right in the face) looked positively stunned that a Muslim woman walked into the place. She didn't recognize me, but led me to a table. I took my seat and opened up the menu, but at the same time my eyes were scanning the area. This table was assigned to a waittress, but a waittress never came to me. Usually, after a person is seated, the waittress comes to the table immediately and asks you if you want a drink. I had to wait for at least five to ten minutes before the hostess returned and asked me if I wanted anything to drink.<br /><br />None of the waittresses ever came to my table to take my order. None of them asked me if I wanted a refill for my water. None of them asked if I was doing alright or if I needed anything else. To make matters worse, it is expected of the waittresses to ask the customers these questions even if they are not waiting on them. Not one of these waittresses wanted to make eye contact with me, nor did they want to come by me.<br /><br />It wasn't until I waved at one of my former managers that he even recognized me. It was then that my hostess recognized me. After I told her about everything that happened today, she looked positively shocked. I would hope that she recognized the same discrimination being carried out in this establishment as it did in the previous ones. If this is how the waittresses would treat a girl with just her hair covered, they would definitely treat an actual Muslim woman in this way.<br /><br />When I was younger, I would hear how people truly felt about Native Americans. Since I look more like my mother and less like my father, these people would be more open about their opinions around me than they would have if my hair was black and my skin was darker. I still get defensive when something like this happens and I've always felt that it was discrimination. However, this was the very first time in my life that I have truly felt discriminated against. When people were talking about Native Americans, they weren't thinking of the white, blond haired woman with 1/4 Ojibwa in her. But when people were ignoring me, glaring at me, following me, denying me service, and weren't welcoming me into their stores or their restaurants, they did it to me. In their eyes, they knew exactly what I was and they didn't want anything to do with me. Even though I did nothing to them but smile.<br /><br />If this is how we treat Muslims in this country, there will never be peace. There will never be an understanding between religions and cultures. If we shun them, ignore them, and make it blatantly obvious that we don't want them here, we are going against everything that this country is supposed to stand for. And if we carry this ideology that "we don't want them here," "we don't want you to come back here," and "it would be better if you just weren't here at all," how does that make us different from Al Queda, the Nazis, the Westboro Baptist Church, the Ku Klux Klan, or the many other various hate groups in the world? It is this ignorance and this thought process that leads to holocausts.<br /><br /><b>Look beyond the veil.</b></span><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">______________________________________</div><div><br /></div><div><i>"<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12px; ">A week after visiting the Islamic Center of America, a man was arrested for attempting to bomb it.</span></i></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12px; "><i><br />Only a few days ago, Florida Pastor Terry Jones traveled all the way to Dearborn, Michigan to burn a Qur'an infront of the Islamic Center of America.<br /><br />This is the same pastor who wanted to burn hundreds of Qur'ans on September 11th.<br /><br />I wanted to keep this story private. But I can't anymore. This is me. This is my experience. And I feel now, more than ever, that it's important to share this with all of you.."</i></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12px; "><i><br /></i></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12px; "><i>*asmilingmalice</i></span></div>Umm Teemhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.com0