VID: Teach Islam

Assalamu'alaykum wrm wbt..

Sharing this with my circle of relatives and friends. Pls kindly spread the khayr and share the ajr. 
Jazakumullahu khayran.

Bismillah.

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Where should Islamic education come/start off from?
Not from the khatibs, the imams, or anyone else before the family institution, of course.

But the issue here is that what our parents used to do 10-20 years may no longer be relevant to our world today..

So... Here, bro Nouman Ali Khan addressed few humble tips, (such an eye-opener subhanAllah) on IMPROVING, preparing ourselves for the next generation- by starting off with the QURAN- LOVING THE QURAN. 

Yes, there are some parts of the education need not to be changed as how the teachings were revealed to the anbiya. 

But with the zombie consumerism?
PSP/Gamebox freaks-lifestyle? 
And more challenges and irresistible temptation today's generation is facing/experiencing/struggling to overcome,
How can we start loving the quran? 
Thus to instill this in today and next generation? 
Practically, how do we do that?

I mean, seriously, think about this.

Some of us are an elder brother/sister to other siblings.
Some are teachers by profession.
And some maybe, sooner or later, going to get kids or to get married.
We are going to be a husband,/wife, next a father/mother..
Or the least, to be a role model, an exemplary to others around us, if Allah wills.

I humbly invite all of you to watch this.

So pls watch~!

Like Bro NAK said, yea, syaithan will come to you, make you yarn and feel sleepy, or suddenly bother you with meetings that you have, 'important' things to do, bla bla bla- when you want to do good things, when you want to spend quality times listening and reciting the Quran with our family.. Or even when you want to WATCH THIS VIDEO!

So pls watch till the last, stay with bro NAK pls..

'We have to become the Nation of Al-Quran- US AND OUR CHILDREN, and the next generation (inshaAllah)'

Here's the video:

Knowledge 'Access' for Hawa (Updated)

Bismillah.
Assalamu'alaykum..

I know i should be focusing on my final revision for my final exam paper tomorrow..
But i couldn't just focus !
SubhanAllah..
What we discussed this morning when we were having our breakfast really made me restless.
I'm not gonna settle down until i write it down.
I know i won't until i do so..
InshaAllah..

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I remember having a halaqah in our masjid here (in our university) and after it ended, we saw brothers gathered around our ustadz, in circle sitting and they seemed to be discussing with him.

SubhanAllah, i still remember how i felt (and still do whenever i get to think of this)..
I was soooo jealous ! And still do..
I felt like walking to them directly, straight away, sit and listen to what they were discussing- MORE KNOWLEDGE! MORE HIKMAH to learn from this amazing ustadz with wonderful akhlaq, wisdom that he possesses. (as to what is apparent-personally know his wife and a bit on his conduct after these few years attending his classes-Allah knows best)

But the only thing that stopped me from doing so was the fact that: I was the only WOMAN-LADY-GIRL-FEMALE-any term of similar species (!) there..

Ok.. Ahaa.. I knew it's crazy to do that. I have hayaa' too..
Allahul musta'an.

I talked to the organizer, suggested to him if we could have a session with Ustadz, only for female.
The sad part is that, ustadz couldn't. I can understand that he stays far, full schedule on other classes he has in other places..
I thank the organizer for opening Q&A session more for sisters during the halaqah tho', alhamdulillah..
But we want more...

We have issues to ask and seek advice from..
We have doubts on lessons learnt to clarify..
We have topics read from our books alone that need to further discuss..

This doesn't happen once.
And not for this particular halaqah, only.
I see this happening in many places.
We women usually have limited access to the ustadz of certain and specified expertize of different disciplines and fields of knowledge. That's such a great loss.
I do feel frustrated seeing this keep hindering us from our passion.
And i see other sisters who are trading on the same path of mine feeling the same way.

Now i realize, where are the female scholars that we can consult, sit and learn from? Whose akhlaq, ways of thinking, knowledge-we can learn, adopt from and impersonate? At least here in our place, where are they?

We do have our own halaqah among sisters, but it's different when we can have a scholar or true student of knowledge who had spent his 5-10 years to learn islam in details and having good akhlaq and wisdom in his teaching- there's so much to learn and gain from this kind of people !

Now i can really understand how the female companions of Prophet Muhammad salallahu 'alayhi wasalam used to feel when they once requested from him salallahu 'alayhi wasalam to have a special,separate classes only for them..

We want one for us, too.....
Ya Rabb, Ya Mujib..
You hear us..

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Khayr. Now we now what we need.
Access to knowledge and qualified people to teach, for sisters..
For all levels, by all possible means, for all possible fields of knowledge.

Ustadz once advised us to be more proactiv in seeking knowledge.
Be more serious in this,
Learn from the 'first-hand' knowledge,
Get your hands on the great books written by big scholars,
Be the female scholars or at leasts students of knowledge who other sisters in the society can benefit from
our knowledge, akhlaq, iman, etc..
Go study whatever it takes to become one !

I get it, BE ONE when you can't FIND ONE.

Wooa.. Heavy.
I feel heavy.
So did my friend when we were discussing this issue this morning.
Allahul musta'an..

Will work on that, inshaAllah.
Pls make du'a for us..

*One thing at a time, ukhty~*

Ya Rabb, pls make us all among people of iman with true understanding of Islam who implement and upon their knowledge with full taqwa and ihsan while keeping the intention sincerely for Your sake, to seek the countenance of You in Jannatul Firdasil A'la. Amin

Upset-and-frustrated-but-motivated-muslima,
Umm Teem.

Beautiful advice given by Ustaz Ibrahim Nuh:

How we USED to feel and think

2 interesting poems....

(My comments at the end)

#1 A Simple Smile, A Scream Inside

There's so much no one knows,

So much that no one sees,

About the way I feel inside,

my thoughts and all my needs.

Maybe it's that they don't look,

Or the fact that I don't show,

Either way, there are things inside

that no one seems to know.

I want to show the world,

I want everyone to see,

all the thoughts and ideas

that flow inside of me.

Maybe you haven't noticed,

or maybe you don't dare,

to find out who I am,

to show me that you care.

I'm screaming on the inside,

a smile is what you see,

But I'm not content with the person

I seem to be.

There's a different person on the inside,

that I can't seem to show,

but maybe if you took the time,

that person you could know..

"Taken from Chicken Soup For The Teen Soul"

#2 Stone By Stone

I have a wall you cannot see
because it's deep inside of me
it blocks my heart on every side
and helps emotions there to hide
you cant reach in
i cant reach out
you wonder what it's all about

the wall i built that you cant see
results from insecurity
each time my tender heart was hurt
the scars within grew worse and worse
so stone by stone
i built a wall
thats now so thick it will not fall

please understand that its not you
continue trying to break through
i want so much to show myself
and love from you will really help
so bit by bit
chip at my wall
til stone by stone it starts to fall

i know the process will be slow
its never easy to let go
of hurts and failures long ingrained
upon one's heart from years of pain
im so afraid
to let you in
i know i might get hurt again

i try to hard to break the wall
but seem to get nowhere at all
for stone upon each stone ive stacked
and left between them not a crack
the only way
to make it fall is imperfections in the wall

i did the best i could to build
a perfect wall, but there are still
a few small flaws, which "is" the key
to breaking through the wall to me
please use each flaw
to cause a crack
to knock a stone off of the stack

for just as stone by stone was laid
with every hurt and every pain
so stone by stone the wall will break
as love replaces every ache
please be the one
who cares enough
to find the flaws, no matter what

Stone by Stone, "Chicken Soup for the Teen Soul" by Rachel Bentley

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ps: These are the poems that as a teenager, i used to like.
(Found them after few years ! Via Syaykh Googly Google)

Such a typical teen girl.

But seriously, that's how most of the teens today feel. Hmmmm...  :/

(If you get what i mean- from what you understood from the poem)

Again, i used to (Read: USED TO) read and like these poems.
I used to- so they unnecessarily resemble my personality/identity/character for today.
(I'm a BIG girl now, a young adult alhamdulillah) :D

Anyhow, reflecting upon these 2, can u imagine how much these young people wanted us (who are so-called so concern and care of them) to listen to them, 'reach' to their feelings and thoughts, to understand and to be genuinely sympathy and empathy towards them..

To my second thought, do we realize, how frustrating and disappointing it is to see so many of them came from a broken family institution, having their potential talents to be polished-retarded then destroyed.

And then you can see in some of them having psychological disorders accumulated in them, such feelings/thought or (should i say) inferior complexity developed within them and then expressed, waiting to be heard, understood and taken 'heed' from those who may concern or from who they seek unreplied attention from, which their family members had failed to do so in the first place ! It's so painful to see this. SubhanAllah.. Seriously it is. Allahul musta'an.. :(

I feel for them.
Understood.

Now, i believe we have to do something about this.
It's time for action. Let's start from small ones, at smaller scale.
Not to forget making or bringing changes for the larger scale- to help all kids from the entire world- Doesn't seem feasible enough for me, not yet. Allahu a'alam)
Let's start with the people near us.
Let's start listening to those around us.
Let's us see what can we do to help them.
Let's try our best.
Let's begin with those who are the closest to us.
Let's do something.
I know it's worth something. InshaAllah.

It's better than not trying at all.
From there, we can move to greater plans targeting to a bigger scale.
If you get what i mean here. InshaAllah :)

Ya Rabb, please bless us all in our age, wealth, health, family and most importantly,

Pls bless us with strong iman and taqwa..

Amin.

*Concern of the youth today*

Blissful with love and peace,

Umm Teem

Help! My child isn't talking to me!

MashaAllah..

A must read article!
Applicable to not just those with children, but to the siblings, inshaAllah..
*And to future mothers* ;)

ParenThots - Features - Help! My child isn't talking to me!

And another interesting and handy article:

http://parenthots.com/features/Dealing-with-mother-daughter-conflict.aspx

May them benefit us all. Amin :)

Wassalamu'alaykum!

Him? Not now, please

A post i've been keeping for soooo long!
It's for you my love..

Bismillah..
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Ukhty habibty,

I know you think a lot of him.
I know you worry a lot of his well being.
I know you care about him.
I know you miss him.

Fair enough to say,
ok, you 'like' him.
and not too extreme to say, 'love' him?

But dear sister,

He doesn't deserve your attention.
He doesn't deserve your care and concern.
He doesn't deserve your thoughts.
He is not worthy of all these- yet.

He is NOT your husband.

Your parents, close sisters and friends,
They deserve your attention, concern, love and time..

Most importantly, you have ALLAH and HIS Rasul (s)! More to learn, know about. What else to give Them their due right- that is to LOVE Them more than anything?..

Allah and Rasulullah (s) and all these people around you have their rights that you need to fullfil,

NOT HIM-yet.
Not him, not until he's halal for you!!

After all, who promises you he's the one that Allah had decreed for, to be your future husband?

What if his name wasn't written in lauh mahfuz all this while??
And that you'd been spending time crying over nights- for him?

Let not what is not in your hands distracts you from focusing what's in your hands now..

Face it, he is not worthy of your attention, energy and time- yet.

I hate how he takes you away from us all, now.

Not now, please..

We keep making dua if he's the one for you, Allah will bless you both with marriage, one day. InshaAllah.

If it's not him, i believe Allah will definitely give you someone better- THE BEST!
That's what you asked from HIM right?
And never didn't HE answer your dua, did HE?
Maybe a lil bit delay in time, but worth waiting, eyh? :)

So no worries...

Stay focus, my love.
Bare with us.

InnAllaha ma'assobirin.. :)

*Stay strong*

A post to keep you and me-strong, with so much love and peace,
Umm Teem

Breaking The Stereotype: The 'P'

"Do you think woman will still love her husband after 5 years?"

I was like "what??"

The issue was pretty 'hot' last night.

We had a talk on "Muslimah: Breaking the Stereotype"

Well, i think it somehow created stereotypes to the audiences on some issue-like yhe 'P'? :)

Ok. The issue was actually on the 'P'- polygamy.
The speaker said that a man started thinking about marrying another when his wife started to stop loving him, which according to him after 5 years. (If i understood correctly)

Man, i wanted so much to grab the mike last night and said this:

"I'm so sorry ustaz. Are you trying to say that man would want to marry second because the wife is no longer loving him? Is that a valid reson to let a man marrying another? I'm sorry to say this, but i actually don't agree with that, with all of my due respect, ustaz. I recognize polygamy and i support it as it is recognized in islam too, but i believe it to be taken seriously with conditions for its great wisdoms. Men must be able to be justice, financially capable, marrying another for the sake of Allah like helping a single mother or a sister to provide her security and shelter or to fullfil both parties' needs as agreed.. and PLEASE let your wife know and discuss with her, tho' the marriage is till valid without her consent. Please be 'a man', be creative to talk to her.

Ok. I recognize all these. But to marry another one just because you feel or think that your wife is no longer loving you after 5 years? That's unacceptable! How bout regaining her love, communicate with her. that's what making up a relation, not abondaning her and marrying to a second wife. What if your second wife stop loving you too? Are you gonna marry to a third? Then fourth?.."

Allahul musta'an..


i respect the speaker, and i still do. Bi ithnillah.
But someone has to break this..
And i kinda regret that i didn't.
Astaghfirullah..

Lessons learnt: speak out your mind. Clarify. Be open to criticism.

This is just my 2 cents.

My opinions? You  may choose to disagree.

But if it's a commandment from Allah?
"sa mi'na wa ata'na", We hear and we obey..

The wisdoms of all these commandments?
It's up to you now to discover them.

Be proactive!

Allah please bless us in last night's gathering. Amin.

With so much love and peace,
Umm Teem.

'SisterHood', As Defined in Our Own Way :)

Bismillah. Assalamu'alaykum!


Mode: Happy

[Me] Assalamu'alaykum my kakak! My oh my. i wish there's a bro like u so that i can marry him :D
Miss u n ur sister. Hope to c u girls soon inshaAllah :)

‎[Sis P] :O

[Me] What does ':O' suppose to mean?? :D

[Sis P] hehe, i first read n went like 'waaaaaaat!' in my head, so i comented such. haha

[Sis Q] Wa alaikum assalam wrt wbt my super cool adik!

Lol! what a lovely msg! hehehe! I wish the prince who forgot his way or lost his horse saw this msg! :P 

Miss you more my dear! see you soooon habibti ♥ ♥ ♥

As i posted to my dear friend's FB wall (Sis Q). We used to tease each other, what a great couple we could be with a spouse of each other's personality- uhuh. we are that close as sisters that we could joke around this way. Alhamdulillah. So don't get us wrong! We are normal human beings with normal fitrah Allah has created. We don't fall in love with girls.. :)

And she replied (So did her lovely younger sister- Sis P). Haha.

*Guess i really miss all of my friends, or dearer to call them my 'sisters', who i love for Allah's sake..*

"There are some people who your heart knows so well that you count their company as one of your greatest blessings of this life.."

As posted by another sister.. My, oh my.. You read my mind ;) 

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I always have fun with you all whenever we get together. 

How our gatherings always bring serene, happiness and tranquil to my heart. Deeply immerse in  warm, soothing sense of love- deep in the heart, the ONLY place which holds one's eman.. 

*Did i describe it correctly?*

How we spent our good time sharing stories, lessons learned throughout the day...

And the best part of it, how we came to relate all these with Islam. Awesome! MashaAllah..


How we remind each other of taqwa and patience in times of hardship and remind each other to say 'thank you Allah!' in times of ease.


How you girls rush to be the first to conceal each others' faults and giving your  hands to correct me while being the best advisor/counsellor to one another when i'm truly in need. Surprised to know you girls really get to know each others' updates so quick! Good WCCC, i'd to say. Wireless-care-and-concern connection ;)

MashaAllah.

I really thank Allah for all these great blessings:

• righteous (and fun!) companions (and Allah knows best). 
• sweetness of faith and the 'eman-rush'.
• All the good times we had in remembering, talking about and calling for Allah (and will always continue experiencing them, inshaAllah). Recalling on those moments we were in troubles (and we could still laugh? LOL) Cool. Guess this 'emergency moments' is one of our best teachers (!) to teach us beautiful patience, total reliance and hope on Allah. Another best part of it, we faced all these amazing facets of life together, biithnillah.
• The chance to improve ourselves to be better muslima.. 

This is what i called "Sisterhood", just the way we define it. ;)

Life is awesome with this awesome deen of its awesome people, who choose to believe its awesome gift of life offered. 

Alhamdulillah.

Thank you Allah.

A post to appreciate

Umm Teem