A Joyful Reminder (COPIED)

As salaamu alaikum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh to all my dear sisters!


These are things I ponder on as I go about my day.

There are NO BATHROOMS TO CLEAN in Jennah

There are NO DISHES TO WASH in Jennah

There is no LAUNDRY or IRONING to do in Jennah

There are NO "What on earth shall I make for dinner?" moments in Jennah

There are NO BAD HAIR DAYS in Jennah

There is NO NEED FOR MAKEUP in Jennah

We will ALWAYS SMELL WONDERFUL in Jennah

We will NEVER HAVE TO PEE, POOP, or PUKE in Jennah

We will NEVER HAVE A SINGLE ISSUE ABOUT OUR BODIES OR APPEARANCE in Jennah

We will have the MOST DELICIOUS FOOD and NEVER HAVE TO PREPARE IT in Jennah

and....

We will NEVER HAVE A BAD THOUGHT, FEELING, EMOTION, OR EXPERIENCE in Jennah.

(Me: Yippee!)

Those thoughts make me go about my daily chores GLADLY, and even make me drag myself up to go the extra mile to do special things for my family. It seems such a small and simple price to pay for such an UNBELIEVABLE reward.


I love you, sisters. Keep on trucking, bi ithn Allah! 


Source click here: A Joyful Reminder!


So hope to see you all again in Jannah! inshaAllah! (;


Till we meet again, 
Umm Teem.

VIDEOS on IKHTILAT Issues

Assalamu'alaykum..

Here's few videos on ikhtilat issues discussed based on the life of the first generation of Islam- the best generation ever lived on the surface of our planet! Called e.a.r.t.h  :)

A MUST WATCH SERIES:

Introduction

The Shyness (haya') of Muslim Women from The Early Generation

The Story of a Muazzin Who looked at a Girl

A Woman Giving Da'wah to Men and Lessons learnt from 'Aicha (r.anha))

O Believer- Lower Your Gaze

How a Pious Woman Should Commmunicate with (Stranger) Men


And more! Check on the Muslimz87 Channel.. You will find the whole series there. InshaAllah :)

*Vids shared as reminders, put for myself before others*

Wallahua'alam

With so much love,
Your sister, Your twin of faith

This is Love

Bismillah..

How often we try to define what is LOVE and yet no justification can ever made to re-ensure what LOVE really means to us..

Look into your heart now my love, who IS there in your heart?

THIS IS LOVE..

"..there are at least 2 types of love. There will be some people you love because of what you get from them: what they give you, the way they make you feel. This is perhaps the majority of love—which is also what makes much of love so unstable. A person’s capacity to give is inconstant and changing. Your response to what you are given is also inconstant and changing. So if you’re chasing a feeling, you’ll always be chasing.  No feeling is ever constant. If love is dependent on this, it too becomes inconstant and changing. And just like everything in this world, the more you chase it, the more it will run away from you.

But, once in a while, people enter your life that you love—not for what they give you—but for what they are. The beauty you see in them is a reflection of the Creator, so you love them. Now suddenly it isn’t about what you’re getting, but rather what you can give. This is unselfish love. This second type of love is the most rare. And if it is based in, and not competing with, the love of God, it will also bring about the most joy. To love in any other way is to need, to be dependent, to have expectations—all the ingredients for misery and disappointment."


Once you begin to see everything beautiful as only a reflection of God’s beauty, you will learn to love in the right way: for His sake. Everything and everyone you love with be for, through and because of Him. The foundation of such love is God. So what you hold onto will no longer be just an unstable feeling, a fleeting emotion. And what you chase will no longer be just a temporary high. What you hold, what you chase, what you love, will be God: the *only* thing stable and constant"


http://www.yasminmogahed.com/2012/01/03/this-is-love/


A post specially made for the-confused me.
May Allah make HIM the most beloved to us. Aamin..

And Allah knows best.
Wassalam..


*Let your love be WITH HIM, BECAUSE OF HIM and FOR HIM*

My Dear Sisters: Please Don't Soften Your Voice

Bismillah. Assalamu'alaykum..

A reminder for us all today!

..فَلاَ تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِى فِى قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلاً مَّعْرُوفاً..

“..then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”
[al-Ahzaab 33:32] 

My beloved sisters, let's not soften our speech when talking to men. Let's see what scholars say about this (tafseer of the above ayah/verse) :

al-Qurtubi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Tafseer:

Allaah commanded them to make their speech serious and straightforward, and their posture and gestures should not convey and wrong ideas, as the Arab women used to do when speaking to men, by making the voice soft and gentle, like the speech of immoral women and prostitutes; He forbade them to do that.

It says in Mughni al-Muhtaaj (4/210), a book of Shaafa’i fiqh:

The woman’s voice is not ‘awrah, and it is permissible to listen to it if there is no fear of fitnah, but it is recommended for her to make her voice unappealing if there is a knock at the door, so she should not answer in a gentle voice, rather she should make it harsh by putting her hand over her mouth.

It says in Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/15), a book of Hanbali fiqh:

The voice (of a non-mahram woman) is not ‘awrah. It says in al-Furoo’ and elsewhere: according to the more correct opinion, it is haraam to gain pleasure from listening to it, even if she is reciting Qur’aan, for fear of fitnah. 

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/202):

The woman’s voice is not haraam in and of itself, and it is not haraam to listen to it unless there is some softness and gentleness in speech. It is haraam for a woman to speak in such a manner to anyone other than her husband, and it is haraam for men other than her husband to listen to it

I won't advice you to shout/raise your voice (to its highest pitch) to men when talking/dealing with them nor am i telling you to CUT OFF your communication completely with them when THERE IS A GREAT NEED for you to deal with them (When i say NEED, it really means NEED a.k.a you don't find ANY OTHER SISTERS to help you) But please don't soften your (readily womanly-soft) voice. Sisters, you know what i'm talking about- when a woman starts giggling here and there with her widest smile on face that her face is full with 'nur' + her cute lil' voice talking innocently to men. God, cair hati lelaki.. (Wa'iyadzhubillah!)

*side-note: Men please lower your gaze (It's in surah an-Nur: 30) and then women too (An-Nur: 31) To my niqabi sisters, it's more important for you to observe your speech since nothing appears from you-except your voice! But that's the best part of being niqabi and fully covered- the hidden face and expression. :)

So minimize your conversation to men (non-mahram,stranger-men) and speak what's important only! (Give them no chance to be 'hanky-panky' with you. Once things done between you and the guy, walk away!)

As Syaykh Salih Munajjid once advised:

It is permissible for a woman to speak in the presence of non-mahram men in cases of necessity, subject to the condition that the speech is straightforward and serious and there is no softness, temptation or provocation in her voice. Her voice is not ‘awrah according to the correct scholarly view. Women used to speak to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and ask him questions, and they used to speak to the Sahaabah about their needs, and they were not denounced for doing so. 

Again. Be professional in dealing with men, talk only what's necessary, have Allah in heart. Be mindful of Allah..

Have taqwa my lovely sisters. Allah's watching you!

And Allah knows best. Wallahua'alam.

(A humble note with A GREAT REMINDER for the forgetful me, before reminding others)

With SO MUCH LOVE to my sweet sisters, wassalam.

[HIGHLIGHT!] Bea-YOU-tiful

‎"Ugly-ducklings" (a.k.a REAL-NORMAL women) vs "Swans" (Airbrushed women)

How you define bea-YOU-tiful? Hmm.. (".)

http://dearlittleauntie.blogspot.com/2011/12/bea-you-tiful.html

But She's Different

But She’s Different

Seeing her being likeable by all people in her circle, hearing good things (almost on everything!) about her from every people who knows her, with her personality who always seems to be happy and making people around her happy with her presence- makes you wonder, “Who is this girl?”

Glaring at her once, you might say, “She seems normal, just like other ordinary Muslim women.” She prays five times a day, just like others. Ok, her hijab- she wears proper hijab; loose and modest clothing, she covers herself well, just like many others. Her friends- She seems to be making friends with everyone, not a big deal! But after spending more time with her, you came to learn more about her. You came to learn one beautiful thing about her which distinguishes her from other ordinary Muslim girls- HER AKHLAQ. It’s her beautiful manners that make her different. It’s her beautiful heart, beautiful soul- attract you most. You have met many Muslim women but she’s different...

She’s always happy. And she makes you feel happy too. You wonder why. Why you feel different in her company? Why do you feel so peaceful and tranquil being in her presence? Now you understand why. She may seem to be ordinary on the outside, but from the inside she is extraordinary. She’s a girl who tastes the joy of faith.  True indeed, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest...” (Ar-Ra’d:28)

She observes her duties as a believing woman to her Lord well. So does her towards HIS creations. She’s kind, nice, friendly and generous to all her sisters. She observes her speech- she tries best not to lie even when she’s joking nor she backbites. She speaks nothing except what’s good and beneficial. She observes her actions- not to be hasty nor does she want to act foolishly. She thinks wisely before acts. Then you realize, every single moment you spend with her increase you in knowledge, good deeds and most importantly- your faith. Above all these, you learn that the only thing which drives her to be as such is only one simple concern: “Is Allah pleased with me? Is Allah happy with me?”

Now you wonder why you can’t be like her.
Ukhty, you have the answer.

Yes you can. All you have to do is just start being one. Set the right intention-to please Allah alone. Then strive to do things (in your utmost capability) which please Allah most. Know this: what pleases Allah will please others whom HE is pleased with as they are pleasing HIM too...

So start today. Don’t delay...
May Allah be your best Supporter and best Companion, assisting you to be different and better than yesterday, inshaAllah? Yes. InshaAllah... InshaAllah...

Till we meet again. Wassalamu'alaykum...

It's Tough Being a Girl - Khalid Latif

Bismillah..

A video that brought me to tears.

I couldn't believe there're such issues still in existence??

SubhanAllah.

May Allah grant us hidayah to understand what's Haq and what's Batil and tawfiq to practice upon our knowledge with perseverence and patience. Amin.

Muslim women need to empower their knowledge on deen..

Few disappointing stories he shared on how men should stop 'oppressing' their women.

Good advice and solutions he gave to these men and the society as a whole to correct this problem of (some) muslim men who don't seem to understand what Islam really wants for the muslim women.

You can choose to be the evidence for those negatively stereotyping made upon islam oppressing women or prove that Islam had nothing to do with what-so-ever confusion you have made upon your practice of your false understanding of Islam.

How? Learn your deen and practice what you learned. Act upon the profound knowledge-based on the teachings of the Quran and as-Sunnah..

Choose one. Take latter, not the former.

WATCH.

Wassalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh..